Hello, going to ask what other people think of this:-
I have just recently split up with my Boyfriend of 15 months.
He told he hasn't been happy with our relationship for a while & has never fancied me.
he phoned me up one evening to say the he couldn't spend the weekend with me as he was meeting up with a new friend, and could he leave seeing me until later in the week, I said ok...then when I got off phone the penny dropped! So I phoned him back and asked outright was his new "friend" a women, he said yes. he then admitted to joining a dating/friendship website, where she had contacted him. I told him I didn't want any more to do with him. deleted his number out of my phone. then he texts saying he doesen't want me out of his life & still loves me!
So like a fool- after a couple of days crying, missing him, wanting him back I phone him on the Sunday morning...find out SHE stayed the night at his place. he hardly says a word, so I ring off, 5 mins later he texts to say that nothing happened and she had the bedroom while he stayed downstairs.
I text back saying as we weren't together he could have whom he pleased in his house.
The thing is I find really strange is that, he had only meet her the day before( on the Saturday) & had let her stay in his house over night! they didn't know each other that well & she could have been a dangerous what ever and the same applies about him to her!
Then he texts me this morning to say that she has to leave the place where she is living at the weekend & she has asked to stay at his place!
I was shocked so phoned him- he told me that her domestic life was complicated, she was living with an ex-boyfriend who was violent towards her at times, she had phoned him & told my BF that he threatened her the previous evening. he then offered her to stay at his, after she had asked him.
I said to him didn't she have other friends who could help her? people she has known longer than him? He has only known her for 10 days or so.
So I said it sounded dodgy & it might be a big con- she gets in his house steals his identity or trashes the place!
He is a sensible person. If she is in genuine danger of domestic violence I told him it was good & noble of him to offer her refuge, but wouldn't it better to let the Police help her find somewhere to go?
I don't want her to be in danger & if she is genuine then I'm being unreasonable I Know.
I don't want him to get conned or be used by someone taking advantage of his good nature.
I still think a lot of him, even after all this.
what do others think of this? Dodgy? or me being a cynical old bag!
Thanks