New LDR and collecting from airport

[Sickofpeppapig00]

OK First World problem here .... I'm in a very new long distance thing (not a relationship as yet of course as we've only met twice before for a few hours each time). He's flying in to visit me for the weekend and due to me having DC with me (they're 2 and 4 yo) I won't be able to pick him up from the airport on arrival which I would really like to do. DC will be leaving to stay with XH an hour or so later so the weekend will be spent without them around but I was wondering ........ would it be a complete turn off were I to turn up at the airport with DC to collect him as a surprise? We would obviously have the car drive back home (around 30 mins) but after that DC would be gone with their father. He's planning on taking public transport to get here so it would be a complete surprise to him.

What's the general consensus .....a completely stupid idea on my part and likely to result in a WTF moment or a nice surprise for him? Btw he's got grown children if it makes any difference.

Can you do some sort of suprise for him at home instead? I was thinking something along lines of opening door to him in sexy lingerie, but that might be a bit too much too depending on your relationship with him!

I wouldn't.

I think it's too early for that - not even necessarily 'too soon to meet the kids' but more 'too soon for the whole "mummy" bit'.

You should be thinking 'I'll meet him all dolled up and sexy' rather than 'in mum mode'!

Silly if. Did that, you can bet the man would rather the toddlers were there. Lesser of two evils

It will be lovely when one of them shouts "I NEED A POO" and the other one throws a handful of wet oatcake into the back of his neck.

If I did that..

How about skipping the surprise bit and asking him to get a coffee and you'll meet him at the airport once you've dropped the kids off?

you cannot, CANNOT pull off a big romantic surprise gesture with kids in tow. this is a fundamentally terrible idea and the dynamic would be so weird and awkward

Absolutely this.

Lol to one of them sticking a wet rice cake into the back of his neck ... wouldn't be the first time!!! .

You're all right, far too early for him to see him on 'mummy mode' so I'll forget about it, best not to risk it!

Thank you all for your input

I agree with Ellis and TSS - really hard to pull of a romantic gesture like this. Stay elegantly indoors.

Also, remember Harry in 'When Harry Met Sally'? He explained to Meg Ryan or Sally that it's never a good idea to meet your loved one at the airport coz that's the sort of thing you do early on when you're loved up and sooner or later in your relationship you won't meet them at the airport because you can't be bothered and that's why it's best not to start doing it!...or words to that effect. I'm with Harry on this one!

I'm more concerned you are spending the weekend with a virtual stranger, is he staying at yours?

I would hate this. If I thought I had time to get off the plane, change money, put some make up on, and pull myself together on the train I would be wrong-footed by the person turning up at the airport. With children? - ugh.

Actually I may just be a bitch but I don't like children appearing in time that was child-free in my head. I feel it is rather an imposition actually like being all "you thought you were getting me but you also, without notice, have to charm my aged, slightly demented and rather demanding and unpredictable mother". Being nice to people like that comes a fair way down the road to commitment, not in fun weekend territory.

And what if he doesn't grasp straight away that they are leaving in an hour? He might panic, and take some time to recover (or run away)

God no, even without kids you've only met twice. Too keen.
Stay at home

I really can't think of a worse scenario at such an early stage of your 'relationship.' I have dc myself but I would hate to meet a new guy's young children when I had only chatted to him for a few hours.

Just because you think they're cute and just because he has politely asked about them doesn't mean he wants to meet them yet.

Let him make the effort to make his way to see you, children or not.

I'll forget about it, best not to risk it!

Nowhere near good enough to prevent posters continuing to tell you not to do it

Vivacia

Is there a very very small part of this which is motivated by a two fingers up to you ex, look at my new man, kind of thing? Only, aside from the fact that you can't have a moment of grown up.conversation with small children present, it seems an odd situation to want to get into.

I wouldn't if it was me. One or both of them could end up having a tantrum, kids always seem to want the loo at just the wrong moment and then you get the "mummeeee" repeat ad fintum, his flight could be delayed and you could be waiting for ages. These are just a few scenario's I can think of. Just wait until it's just the two of you.

I'm more concerned you are spending the weekend with a virtual stranger, is he staying at yours?

This!

Defo do not bring your kids! Enjoy your adult time,hope you have a great weekend.

You have met him twice for a few hours and he is coming to visit you for a weekend.

Is he staying at your place?

How did you meet him?

I'm most definitely old enough to talk to you like your mother. So. He is a virtual stranger and he's spending the weekend with you? At the very least make sure that a trustworthy friend knows all about it and has his name and address and and arrange for her to call you a couple of time over the weekend.

Preferably arrange some sort of meet up with friends and tell him about it "oh, we're going for lunch with X on Sunday, I know you'll like them"

Thank you all for your concerns but we've got plenty of friends in common, that's how we met. He's been living abroad hence us not meeting until now.

So, nope, not being reckless and inviting a total stranger home for the weekend (although. ... plenty of people have ons every night, mostly when they're completely drink.....surely that's even more dangerous?!)

Drunk not drink!

I will take the unpopular stance and point out that you seem far far more worried about how HE will see you if you bring the dcs and how HE will react.... and not nearly enough time worrying about how the dcs will see him and how they will react. Sorry. It's brilliant that you have found someone you think is lovely... but your first concern should be the dcs. And it's way way too soon for them to be meeting him. It's all about priorities.

But the OP explained that Alice.