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Going NC with my mum. Had enough

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VitoCorleone · 25/11/2014 09:46

Just that really, anyone who has seen my previous threads will know, but for those that don't heres a brief summary of why

She is extremely petty, she will see her arse over the slightest thing and not talk to me for weeks

She threatened to beat me up a few months ago, why? Because she came to my house when i was at the doctors with my son, threw a hissy fit because i should have known she was coming and been in, when i snapped and finally stood up to her she threatened to beat the shit out of me.

She turns up at my house every day without even texting to see if I'm not busy, if i dare to have plans she falls out with me, expects me to be sat at home all day on the off chance she pops in.

She hates me having friends, gets jealous if i make plans to do anything with friends because she thinks me and her should be best mates and do everything together, and i must hate her if id rather go shopping with a friend

When somebody watched my kids for a couple of hours she flipped saying why didn't i ask her, i obviously don't think she's good enough etc yet when i do ask her she whinges and moans and has even told me she 'cant watch them anymore because of a bad back'

The final straw came when i bumped into her and she said she was coming over, i said i needed to go up town to run a few errands, her reply was "sod ya then" then didn't hear from her for a few days then the day before my birthday i get a text saying "I'm not getting you anything for your birthday, stay away from me" why? Because i had errands to run a few days earlier and she couldn't come round.

The way she treats me is absolutely appalling, and this is just examples from recently, she's been like this my whole entire life and ive finally realised that she brings nothing to my life apart from anxiety

What sort of mother threatens to beat up their child? What sort of mother doesn't want their child to have friends and a life of their own?? What sort of mother sends a text like that the day before their daughters birthday???

If my nana and granda could see how she behaves with me they would be fucking disgusted.

I am fucking done and that woman will not be part of my life again ever

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SuperTooToo · 25/11/2014 21:40

Has she got a personality disorder, OP? Like narcissism or on borderline spectrum? I found that people's horrible behaviour made sense once I could see the bigger picture. It didn't change it, but changed how I saw it, and I was able to extricate myself as I knew they would never change (narcissism).

VitoCorleone · 25/11/2014 23:24

Id say she definitely has some sort of personality disorder, but not sure which as im not sure what symptoms belong to which disorder. There's definitely something not right there though.

I know she was put on antidepressants ages ago but came off them as she said they made her feel awful, i tried to tell her that they will make you feel awful to start with but things do get better. She took absolutely no notice.

I don't think she even realises or cares how bad and abnormal her behaviour is, she's always been this way and now in her 50's i very much doubt she'll ever change

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