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Having a bad time.

13 replies

Nush · 07/10/2006 11:51

Hi

I had a p who left me and my baby not so long ago, and im having big trouble dealing with it

i dont really know what to say, im just having trouble coping really.

not much else to say, thanks for reading anyway!

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swift1 · 07/10/2006 12:01

Hi Mush,

life can be crap can't it? How old is your baby? Do you have any relatives/ friends nearby?

swift1 · 07/10/2006 12:02

oop ssorry - Nush

pindy · 07/10/2006 12:32

What is the hardest part? Money, missing him, being on your own, looking after the baby?

Do you have family nearby or any good friends?

Thinking of you.

X

mell2 · 07/10/2006 14:09

Hi Nush, so sorry you're feeling like this. How long did your p leave and how old is your baby?

Take carexx

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Nush · 07/10/2006 20:23

mush sounds better!
hes 3 months old. i have my mum near by, so she helps when she can, but i mostly get stressed and she gets stressed with me.

its not the money im worried about, as he has never contributed in our relationship, he bought the cot and that was it!

he left about a month ago, im just finding it all a bit hard to cope with thats all.

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Gingeme · 07/10/2006 20:40

Just remember hes gonna be the one missing out on all the precious moments youll be sharing with your baby. IS he interested in seeing your baby at all? If not then sod him. It takes some time but you will move on and to better things in time. I did after my p left me with a 3 and 4 year old. That was 8 years ago and Im now married to a wonderful man and am expecting baby number 2 with this man. Its gonna get better. Honest it will xxxxxx

moloko · 07/10/2006 21:10

Are you still in love with him or care for him or its just hard be alone? Or maybe its hard to cope with the baby on your own? Its hard with babies to start with but it gets better and time heals everything x x

Gingeme · 07/10/2006 21:13

Nush, babe, you ok? xx

Original poster
Nush · 07/10/2006 21:43

Gingme im ok.

He left me and i did not even have a clue anything was wrong.

I still love him so much, i thought that we were going to be together for a long time, you know?

Not my first love but the most serious.

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Gingeme · 07/10/2006 22:37

Yes I know exactly what you mean. My p left me totaly out of the blue. Just said he tought we should slpit up because it wasnt working. A real slap in the face I can tell you. It will hurt for a long time Im afraid and you will feel like shit. But think of your little boy and whats best for him. He is your life now.

dmo · 07/10/2006 23:06

have you got PND? you could have with all your life changing experances at once
new baby, no partner etc etc
talk to your health visitor on ways to cope she might know some support groups or baby groups you could go to

Gingeme · 08/10/2006 15:49

Nush Ive been thinking about you through today. How are you feeling? Is anything making any sense yet? Hows your baby reacting to all this? I feel for you I realy do.

ditzymum · 08/10/2006 16:11

So sorry Nush (((hugs))).
Things will get better, it happened to me 4 years ago and like Gingme I've met someone else and am happier than ever.
keep your chin up and enjoy every minute with your baby x

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