There is a long back story with parents in law. Mil is an alcoholic, doesn't drink for weeks then binges for weeks. Fil is a nice enough man, very quite. He doesn't talk much and has never made much of an effort with me (I have tried). He also drinks a lot, usually when mil starts he seems to think he might as well join in.
Dh loves his father dearly but has not had a good relationship with his mum since he was 18 when the alcohol problems began.
There have been lots of issues over the years where mil has played bil and dh off against each other. Constant comparisons, she only talks to us when she has fell out with bil and sil.
We have been nc with il's since my daughters 5th birthday. Mil promised Dd she would come to her party then sent a present with Fil while he was on the way to the pub. Dd cried and cried. Asked contantly where granny was and refused to open her present until granny came.
Fil has had prostate issues and has been monitored by his gp. Dh uncle phoned a few months ago to say Fil was ill, prostate. When dh phoned he got a very cool response phone call lasted less than a minute. Fil was not very sick, he just need tests. Results were fine dh said mil is playing games again.
Today I had a quick look at face book. Sil had posted get well soon grand a from xx xx and xxxx. She NEVER posts on fb so can only assume it was for my attention. I will not be running back to them.
Dh will be really upset when I tell him him dad is ill we've been here before. Dhs black mood will last for weeks. Weather or not he contacts them. I don't know what to tell him. Of course dh needs to know his father is ill but how dare they do it this way. I really want to comment on sil's status "thanks for letting family know before you tell the world " but won't