Do you and your DP still kiss?

[fiveyearstime]

Lately I've been really missing those long, passionate snogs that you tend to find more at the start of a relationship. In fact, when I fantasise about being intimate with other people, it's often more about kissing than sex. My sex life is OK, but kissing seems to have gone completely by the wayside, somewhere in the last 10 yrs of marriage. Am I the only one?

OP, surprise him when he comes home with a right good snog! We've just gone through a rough patch, hopefully it's now behind us. One of the things that had totally gone from our relationship was the physical side. Now we are snogging again and it's fantastic! your DH probably misses it too, so go grab him!

Absolutely, every single day (sometimes many times). .

We have a kiss each morning and each night,we have been married nearly sixty years,but why not? I go to bed first and I say goodnight babe and DH says goodnight honey, if the youngsters can do it why cant we

ferretyfeet, that's just great.

When DH and I first met we used to snog all the time. We lived in a very idyllic city and would often stop and snog in scenic locations. I think as we've been together longer (and moved to slightly more strait-laced places...) our somewhat OTT public displays of affection have lessened! But I do notice it when we haven't snogged a lot lately and do try to inaugurate it.

We do get out of the habit sometimes, partly because I get lots of mouth ulcers which make any kissing miserable.

Yes. We snog loads actually! DH is a really good kisser. I couldn't have married someone who couldn't kiss, a slobberer, or a tongue stabber...ugggh. Oh and we have been together for 20 years, and I think the kissing is better than ever.

Kissing for me is more intimate than sex. Totally intense if you allow yourself to lose yourself in it. Snogging is something that should be enjoyed in its own right. Not just as a precursor to sex.

Kissing is more intimate than sex for me. It can be intense and incredible when you lose yourself in it. Snogging should be enjoyed in its own right. Not just as a precursor to or during sex.

Seems I enjoy it so much I posted twice!

Yes, love a good snog. DH is a truly lovely kisser, lovely soft lips and manly beard

Clearly if it takes place in the kitchen as we are just about to have dinner and we have 2 children setting the table then no, there will be no sex!

I think intimacy should be an every day thing. I will always make physical contact with Dh and he does the same to me. It can be a stroke of an arm or kiss the back of his neck. We also cuddle up together on the sofa but that then ends up as a family pile on when the boys try to join in the snuggle. They are almost 12 and almost 9.

We have been together almost 19 years (that makes me feel old, I am 40)

Together 15 years and yes still snog.

Snap, BearFeet - 15 years and still snogging strong.

It often does lead to sex, but not always :)

yes quite often.

Every day, with tongues and squeezing. Releases oxytocin and stuff, lowers blood pressure, promotes big silly grins, annoys DD.

Win all round.

Oh dear - this is going to sound like another nail in might-STBXH's coffin:

We don't kiss, snog, hold hands, hug in public. Even if I'm saying goodbye to him, he doesn't kiss me - the most I get is that he offers his cheek for me to peck! He might allow me to hold his arm if we're walking somewhere, otherwise we walk side by side or he walks slightly ahead of me.

When we do snog, it's because he wants me to 'give him some attention' in bed, when I also get told that I'm not doing it right [I won't go into the details of what 'doing it right' means] and that he was always told he was a good kisser when he was younger. No wonder he's getting close to STBXH

No

We've recently started snogging again. I don't think we'd realised that we'd stopped.
I thoroughly recommend starting up again. It's bloody lovely.

We do I think partly down to a conversation we had in the beginning. We have both been married before and are very aware that these things slip and often become a marker for having sex. We agreed that we would still snog for the sake of snogging and cuddle before we went to sleep every night. Barring illness we do snog randomly and do cuddle up every night. I think it's helped keep our sex life going as well because there is no pressure and no assumption. Sometimes it's just a snog but keeping the affection and intimacy of it has definitely helped.

Yep. Love it. Just had a bit of a snog in the kitchen .

Tbh, about 12 months or so ago, I realised we'd stopped kissing, so I made a rule that DH was not allowed to leave the house without kissing me (he usually leaves before me, but if not, I go to kiss him, obviously. Not usually more than a peck and a quick hug, but even that sets me up for the day, and puts a smile on both our faces.

no

and I don't miss it because it always felt like being eaten by a vulture with orthodontic fantasies .

Did any of you ever manage to successfully have the conversation where you sort out the fact that one of you is absolutely terrible at kissing/ in bed - and have a positive outcome, i.e. a change in technique that both are happy with?

We've had that conversation (without any useful outcomes) more often in the past few years than we've kissed or done anything else. Sigh.

Snogging isn't just for teenagers

Yes I have changed dh snogging bad habits. He erroneously believed that teeth licking was erotic. Well worth the conversation. He also very discretely cleans his teeth in a way that encourages me to clean mine if we are going to be intimate.

Joysmum 'I've never been into full on long sessions of sniffing' .

I miss it, it's been about 7 years, but I no longer want that with oh. We've fallen into the dreaded "you seem like my sibling" dynamic which makes everything awkward.