Hi, I'm relatively new to MN, so bear with!
I split from my boys Dad 2 years ago. We were together 12 years. It was very acrimonious, but long story short I walked away with nothing as the house was his and have managed to build a new life for us. In the beginning he had the boys (14 and 10) 2-3 nights a week. He then found out I had met someone and told the boys my new BF was 'bad news' and that I was a crap mother. He then only saw them one night a week.
Cut to 16 months ago and he met someone. I thought this would be good as it would bring stability to his life which could only be a plus for our children. Turns out new GF is an insecure nightmare who is jealous of me, our kids, his sisters and anyone who has a relationship with him. She fell out with his sisters the first few months of meeting him and when they took my boys on holiday came back after one night as she argued with them. Each time they split he comes to me moaning about her jealousy and how he walks on eggshells. Now I discover he has moved her and her daughter into his house and is only seeing our boys every Sunday for about 4-5 hours, my boys hate her. I have tried to explain to them that if she makes him happy they must try to like her for his sake. But they say she isn't making him happy and he is terrified of being alone. She has not made any attempts to build bridges so why should they. This dilemma is making me bitter and angry and its all I can do to stop myself going down there and letting rip. Although I am not like this normally. He has let this woman come between him and his sons and it devastates me. The biggest thing is there is NOTHING I can do about it. The boys seem ok. The youngest is more forgiving but the oldest won't have anything to do with her. Someone tell me it will get better. I hate feeling so angry and bitter.