How to get H to move out?

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My friend has asked her "DH" to leave. It is a total LTB situation, and there is one DC (5).

She has found him (with his approval) a flat, paid his deposit and a month's rent upfront. He has the keys. She has put the next month's rent into an account for him.

She took the DC out for the day on Sunday so that he could move his things out. I believe she even made arrangements with a neighbour who has a van to help move stuff.

When she got home, he had washed the car. That's all.

He shows no sign of leaving, hasn't packed a thing. It is making her life hell, she's finally summoned up the strength to ask him to leave, and he won't go.

What does she need to do? She has an appointment with a solicitor next week and has asked me to go with her for moral support. What questions should she ask?

He is not physically aggressive towards her or the DC, but he is a dick. More info is available if you need it, just so I am not accused of drip-feeding, just not sure what info you need to know.

Thanks!

Bit silly to get a flat not easy to get to dc school. What would happen if dc stayed over with dad on school night ?
No reason why dc can't cope with moving for a while or a long time.
If she really needs to get away she can move out to the flat.
The h clearly won't move...

Cancel the tenancy get a flat for her and dc close to dc school. Then solicitor and sort out longer term.
Sell the fmh.

The DH won't be doing the school run due to his work. I doubt there would be overnights on a school day. I may be wrong though.

There are no places to rent in the vicinity of the school, and the fmh is within walking distance of the school.

I think she's done entirely the wrong thing by enabling this wank badger

She should now spend the money on going to court for an occupation order

If dimwit wank badger actually physically signed the lease it's his problem
and not hers.

And it's good evidence if he signed the lease for her to get an occupation order and it shows he was going to move out

laurie wank badger

Why should he move out? If a woman posted on here that her and her h were splitting up and he had said that she should be the one to move out, he had sorted out a flat for her and paid the first months rent people would say he was being controlling and under no circumstances should she move out.

The fact that he has signed the lease and collected the keys means nothing - for all we know he may have been coersed into doing that/he may feel he has no other choice but when it came to it he felt he had to retain some control of his life.

Honestly, talk of occupation orders and changing the locks are not helpful - again if this was a woman she would be being advised to ring women's aid and even the police.

Sorry op but your friend sounds utterly controlling and I don't blame her h for standing firm. it's his home too, and his kids. She doesn't get to call the shots just because she's the one who wants out. And if she's the one who wants to leave then she should be the one to leave.

Also, there is no guarantee that she will be awarded the family home, this is rare in fact and becoming more so because it is not a constructive way for couples to move on after a split. one party has to be responsible for a mortgage for instance meaning that the xh can't move on with their own life until the children are eighteen yet is expected to be financially responsible for a house he doesn't live in and in some instances even have limited access.

People really need to stop advising posters that they will be guaranteed to live in the family home because that is simply not true.

This is all helpful, wannabe.

Can anyone suggest any questions she should be asking the solicitor when she sees them?

The OP asked for advice about how to get someone to move out...my comments at least were in response to that. They are not about the rights or wrongs of the situation.

(he is, though, a wankbadger!)