Would anyone like to adopt me?

[ShesAnEasyWuffer]

The lovely 'adopt a gran' thread has got me thinking!

I have recently gone nc with my mum. She allowed my stepfather to abuse me (sexually and emotionally) when I was a child over a period of 8 years, and then rejected me when I told my Dad about the abuse as a teenager. I have finally had enough of her self-pity and general toxicity and have cut ties.

I never had a true mum figure in my life, someone to care about me and nurture me (and vice versa). It is through having my little daughter that I realise what I have missed out on, and I am feeling increasingly sad about this.

I live in Sussex with my dh and dd (7 months). Would love to meet someone

I'm so sorry about what happened to you. Truly you were very brave and your 'mother' did not deserve to have children. What a terrible thing to do.

Bumping for you, in the hope someone luffly comes along. Sadly I'm in Oz, so not much use.

Thanks wonc, lovely of you to reply

Really sad history but I'm sure you'll reverse it with the love and security you'll give dd. can't be an adoptive mum I'm afraid as I am male!

I can't adopt you I'm afraid but I live in Sussex if you want a friend?

I live in Sussex also if you want a chat .

I would love to adopt you being adopted myself but Scotland may just be a bit far away for you

Thank you all, you're so sweet

Just to clarify (in case I'm scaring anyone!) I'm not looking to literally be adopted, just have a mother figure in my life!

I'm not far from West Sussex. Which end are you?
I'm good at hugs, tea and cake and listening.

In RH10 area. so as mentioned can also do cake and tea.

I have NC with my mum over the last five years and the years before tat the relationship was very damaging. I miss more than anything the mother that never was, I see my friends having mums or mother figures to turn to, do things with, for support, help with the kids etc and I just feel so sad and alone. So I'm not much help other to say that I feel for you and know exactly what you mean.

I guessed you don't literally want to be adopted, but I don't think I'm ready to be a mother figure to an adult

Am in Brighton & have very broad shoulders, make a mean & am not averse to a or two!

I'd love to be a mother figure....but I'm in Somerset. A MNer with a similar story to the OP can apply!

OP I hope you find the support you need, and good for you being proactive and posting.

Thank you so much everyone.

cocoa I'm in Brighton, whereabouts are you?

I'm sorry you're going through the same thing. Crap isn't it

Sorry, last sentence was for alongcamespiders

Thanks cafe x