My mum doesn't like me

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I'm grown with children and I just know she doesn't like me (or love me?) from the way she acts with me.

She doesn't rate me as a mother.

I feel that every opportunity to criticise me as a mother or personally she takes.

She is generous with our children, has a role in childcare and loves our children.

Just wanted to chat to someone.

I was an idiot who thought I could make her like me. Gave up eventually. Went NO for a few years. We are now in a very dysfunctional stage where I let her in a bit in the hope boundaries are set, she tramples and I withdraw again. I wish I could leave it alone. I have become horrible. She texts offering me money , I respond telling her horrible things she did to me. I don't take money btw and don't ask for it or want it so have no idea why it's offered.

I imagine she offers it to have some control over you. It will never baba gift. It will either be needed to be paid back and you won't hear the end of it.

Or you will be forever reminded that she have you money and will be used as a rod to either hit you with or to force contact.

My mum likes me as long as im doing as she wants. Appearances are the most important thing to her. Ive lost weight in the last 15 months and she approves of that (i didnt do it for her approval i did it for my health) she questions things constantly and is nosy and controlling. Even asks where im going if im going to the toilet while at hers.

Sorry to hear this, parents can be cruel assholes. Ask yourself this, would you ever treat your children in this way. I trust the answer will provide you with the answer.
Sometimes telling bad parents (and she is one) the truth is needed. Sometimes breaking free is the way to go. She's probably angry at herself for something and is taking her own life frustrations out on you because she knows you'll take it. Unless youve massively upset apple cart in past then be strong, you deserve better