How long to wait before inviting a new man in to your house?

[MoonshineWashingLine]

I've been chatting to a lovely guy (we met online) for months and we've now had 2 very enjoyable dates, I like him very much but it's hard to find time to meet up as I have dd (nearly 3) and limited childcare.
I really want to see more of him and the only way I can feasibly do that is by inviting him to my house - after dd is in bed of course.
I get a really good feeling about him, there's no way I would even consider letting some of the other guys I've had dates with anywhere near my house but I feel a definite spark with this one... i sense its going to go somewhere :) what do people think?

I know it's a bastard to shell out cash, but seriously it's the right thing to do. you don't know him, he couldd be anyone, and to invite him to your home having met him ttwice is a risk.

Humble you're the first person to know where the name comes from

3 times now! Haha...
He's going to be working away as of next week anyway so I think that will force us to take things slowly. I have a bit of a habit of moving to fast in relationships sometimes...

Men are hunters and love the chase so take it real slow

Even go ex communicado now and then.

It's all character building for them.

I always remember prospero's line from the tempest....something along the lines of ...lest too easy winning makes the prize light. He had a beautiful daughter and wanted to make sure her suitor wasn't just some young lothario trying it on.

In the absence of a dad in that role we have to be our own monitor.

I do hope he's lovely and it all works out btw and it has more chance when he sees you have good standards.

Just out of curiousity - if you wait until the DC grow up and leave home before allowing a man in - what about when grandchildren enter the picture? Would you never have them over or kick the fella out?

While I'm fully on board with making sure you know the person really well and trust them 100% before letting them into your home or around your children - I don't think it's realistic to say you can't move a loving/trusted partner in before the kids move out, especially if that's a good few years away.

There is on option, Baby sisters are a must.