For years i have had problems getting the Dh to discipline the teens.I grew up in a strict household where Mum had rules and we had chores.Dad used to back her up .
With DH and i both working long hrs some help around the home wouldve been lovely but they only did what i asked as dh felt they shouldnt help.
This yr DD 17 left A levels as she struggled with the 1st yr.
I told her she wouldnt sit around all day while i work until 1130pm and she has helped with washing up and hanging washing.DH took her too bristol to get a coach to see her BF.This week as i was on hols i said i may go with him to collect her and make a day of it at the huge shopping complex there as i havent been that far in yrs.
last night he said she rang to see if he would get her at 5pm sun eve!! I am working sunday as he well knows and her apprenticeship was due to start mon 8am.
Transpires the owner of the nursery wont let her start until security checks are complete which could be weeks and DD is thinking of getting an xmas job instead!!
I feel sad and fed up that what DD wants goes and DH wont tell her anything or set boundaries or expectations so now i can see me working all hrs over xmas while they just chill.I love to work but i am at a loss as to how to handle this with DH enabling our lazy DD while we work our socks off!! He trips over himself to drop her places while our son never asks a nd he never offers despite me pointing out the unfairness.