Councillor verses self help books - advice

[GoldenMama]

Hi, so my husband left a year ago we have 2 children and we see a lot of him still, a little too much probably.

I am still very confused about our relationship and am really struggling with moving on. Not that I want a new man kind of moving on, but some closure and distance from ex would definitely be good for me, and probably for him as well.

I have a good support network of friends and family around me, but fed up of hearing myself talk about it and not feeling like i am getting very far with my understanding and emotions. I went for an initial consultation with a councillor

Wasn't finished!!

Councillor was alright, think with an hour I felt worse at times, but better later that day. However not sure sitting in a room with a stranger talking about myself and my failed marriage is going to do much different from a good self help book (if there is one for me?) Where I am comfortable by myself exploring ways to move past this.

So I suppose I am after opinions, experiences and and books you lovely people know of that have helped you or someone you know?

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You can get good theoretical understanding from self-help books which really can be useful.

There seems to be something extra from person-to-person interaction though. As long as you click with the therapist - that's very important.

I believe that some studies have shown that the approach of the therapist matters less than the connection between the two of you. I do think the type of therapy can be really important depending on the problem though. Still, the click is vital.

So I think both self-help books and the person-to-person stuff is important!

Thanks. Any particular books you know of?
Trying to get a better understanding of where it was a bad relationship and find the good things as well to hold onto for any future relationships. Also separating my mind from the marriage to let go of it.

there's a book called "the healing journey through divorce" which I found good OP - got it on amazon. It's quite practical too

Thank you I will have a look at that.