Am I being foolish re man that can't meet

[SezaMcGregor]

Met guy. Had massive crush. Finally contacted him. Said that he is ill with some long term pain thing and though he is really pleased to hear of my interest, and would like to meet up, cannot do so for a while. Asked me to keep in touch and we've since been exchanging a few messages a day - sometimes more.

I really really have a massive crush.

He says that he is keen to leave it open ended, just keep it friendly. He finds me attractive and would really like to meet. He's also wary about leading me on to think that there could be a relationship when he's so far from being able to see me.

His messages are friendly, he seems interesting and has good hobbies and interests.

I just wonder whether my judgement is being clouded by the guy that I really fancy showing even a bit of interest and should I realistically just tell him to get in touch when he is able to see me?

Do not know what to do.

I think it might be worth considering, Seza, that your thinking might be clouded by events or relationships that precede this man. Everyone's probably is to different degrees but, as usual, AF summed it up back there.

Didn't realise you'd met him...doesn't sound like he wants a relationship...I would move on if I were you.

I like to think that the good bits are mine and the crap stuff in my wiring came from "them."

Yes

Sometimes an illness such as arthritis is demanding men as well as women will flare up from time to time so from reading what he has told you i reckon he is telling the truth. Its best to focus on something or someone when you have enough energy to go out as pain can be really overbearing and if it is he has flared up he won't fancy going out and sitting still in a resturant for over two hours he will just want to rest.

ROUND - arthritis is similar to what it sounds like. He said that he would like to meet, but when he feels better and more able to spend quality time rather than just being in pain. He says that he doesn't want to talk about it much as he doesn't want to project things onto me.

We said that we'd keep in touch during this time, and have been emailing daily - sometimes lots of messages, sometimes just one from each of us.

I don't want something full on - I've been single for a while and have always lived on my own so him putting no pressure on me is nice.

I'm going to keep it friendly. He's a nice distraction and nice to have someone to chat to about our interests. I'll get bored if he keeps me dangling too long and I'm not adverse to making a new friend rather than a new lover if things do go that way.