good relationship lacking sex !

[ellie301290]

My partner of 2 years who I have a child with has suddenly started to refuse sex! Its actually got to the point where I dont know how to approach the situation. I've tried confronting him about it and he shrugs it off. Sometimes even makes me feel like im pestering him. I've tried lightly suggesting sex throughout the day, flirting etc. I've walked round the house in sexy underwear no end of times and still nothing! Im at my witsend I dont know whether its me or him ??? We gone from at least twice a day to not even once a month! I just dont feel good enough for him sometimes :(

[cheerupandhaveaglassofwine]

Is he perhaps having erection problems and is refusing sex as a way of burying his head in the sand and ignoring the problem

[Dirtybadger]

What have you said and what has he said? You're much better talking about it than wearing sexy underwear and pressuring him

If, for example, he's developed some sort of ED, pressure and sexy undies will just make him feel even more embarrassed /inadequate. Has anything else in your relationship changed, or just sex? How long has it been a problem? Was it sudden, or has it slowly dwindled?

[ellie301290]

I've talked to him about it. He says he's tired or he would rather watch the football and drink a few beers with his head in his phone constantly on Facebook! He doesn't have erection problems either. Also this has been happening for the past 6 months id say. Nothing has changed in our relationship really except the sex and lack of communication :( xx

[ellie301290]

He's 35 and im 23. Could this be the problem? X

[cheerupandhaveaglassofwine]

Can't see the age difference really being a problem unless he really just can't keep up with you

I would love twice a day, but we have only just passed twice so far this year

Only by talking about it will you find out what the problem is, but that depends upon him wanting to talk and fix things

[MadeMan]

If you were with him 18 months before it started happening 6 months ago, then perhaps the so-called honeymoon period is now over.

[cheerupandhaveaglassofwine]

Sorry see you have talked about things, why is his head constantly in Facebook, do you think this could be a problem ?, someone else online ?

[ellie301290]

I want it though the relationship still feels young to me! I was with my last partner over 6 years and never had this problem! I know every relationship is different but this is all new to me! He says he happy and content! Maybe he's too comfortable? Lol. And he uses Facebook alot to promote his business but sometimes through the night when I've woke up I have caught him on it :/ I don't know what to think !he's never gave me any reason not to trust him :/ xx

[cheerupandhaveaglassofwine]

Has he only had his head constantly in Facebook for the last six months this has been a problem ? or has he been using it to "promote his business" for all of the time you have been together.

His on it constantly doesn't sit right for me

[ellie301290]

Yep only the past 6 months he's been constantly on it! If he could go on it whilst he's asleep he would!!!! Xx

[cheerupandhaveaglassofwine]

So the problems in your sex life have started around the same time as he constantly has his head buried in Facebook

Does he ever leave his phone lying around unlocked with Facebook signed in ? or does he constantly keep it well guarded and never leave it lying around where you may accidentally see it