Inlaws

[tobeagain]

Do your in laws treat you as they would a daughter, within reason of course! Or do they treat you like an 'in law' ie if there's something important to discuss you wouldn't be involved.

Hoping, Mum the same My DH and my sister and brother's partners are all treated the same as us.

But unlike your dh mine doesn't care whether he/we see her, as she threw him out at 18 because he didn't want to finish a course at university which didn't suit him. He had a job and supported himself since then. But we still get the snide remarks about 25+ years later.

I am very much part of the family, with the exception that they won't 'tell me off' they will tell DH if I'm doing something wrong, which I think he abuses sometimes, as I'll get a "my mum is concerned that xyz" when to my face she's been A-OK about it and even encouraging...

I'm N outsider.. She rings and first words are "is mr chatty there?"

He then tells me it was purely about watching the kids while it's parents evening, reminding him even though I'm the one that arranged it all.

If it's about money etc I'm never allowed to be there. But my inlaws wrote a 3 page letter calling mr chatty and idiot for getting engaged when we got engaged.

Well I wouldn't say mine treat me as a daughter. They do however treat me in what I would consider an appropriate way to treat a DIL which is to say affectionately and respectfully. Therefore I would definitely be involved in any major talks etc if it was felt that my DH should be involved.

My partner's parents (I'm not married) I'm 27, been with him for 5 years. Treat me as if I am their own, involve me in everything - sometimes moreso than my other half! I have contact with them away from him, and they would take utter offence if I wasn't at every family gathering/discussion/event that occured! Even more now I am pregnant. I don't have a very close family so it's quite overbearing (but obviously welcoming). And regularly pester my dad to be involved too lol.

My dad (my mum passed away) doesn't really have the same relationship with my partner. They don't contact each other unless through me, don't do anything together, and my dad rarely wants to do anything with us.

Really depends on them as people I guess and how their dynamic is as a family to start with.