Really struggling with what normal should be and I guess feeling a tad resentful. DH works away a fair bit and we have addressed this recently due to problems in our relationship and he now is away from us much less. He felt disconnected from the family and I felt unsupported by him. As we are together more this is much much better.
He's away for a week now and flat out with work. When I talk to him he is lovely, says he's missing us. But and this is what pisses me off.. He doesn't have that responsibility that I have for the family and the kids and to be honest I don't think he ever will. For example I told him DS had an ear infection the other day and when I've spoken to him , he hasn't asked how DS is with this? It's like he gets so caught up with work and he talks to me about this (his work) but he's totally absorbed in that when he's away from us and doesn't think about his responsibility of being a dad.
I could never imagine doing this ever. Even if I go out for the day (rarely) I think about my kids constantly and what they doing at each hour of the day.
When he's with the kids he's great but I hate this ability to switch off.
I guess part of me is resentful as I know I could and never would do this.
Normal or a crap husband and daddy?