I've posted many times about issues with my partners family (mil & SIL). We have been together 9 years and have a little boy who is 3 months old. There's a thread on Aibu stating some of the terrible things mil has done to me over he years. My DP still involves his family on a small basis in regards to our life and he states 'it's the only family he has', even thought they treat him like shit.
Naturally when my child was born I didn't really want him near that family as they are toxic, but had to for dp sake, they still act the same way and I can't stand it, it's driving me insane. Because of this we are closer to my family as my parent looks after our son and that parent is the sole person we trust.
Last night I mention to dp that my brother wanted to visit tomorrow afternoon and as it was around the same time he comes home from work and also is on the same route, I asked could he pick my brother up as he doesn't drive yet. He said no chance, I reminded dp that he is using my car at the moment as I don't need it that much as I'm on maternity leave. He still said no then it turned into 'well if my family can't come up then he is not allowed up', currently they come up to our house around once a week.
His family are forever causing issues between us because I can't just let them near my baby without me there and the threat of this makes me so upset. I really do hate them. Now he says my parent is banned from babysitting and my family aren't allowed up here anymore. I feel so isolated as it is he's ruining my maternity leave and time with my baby because of his family's fucking issues.
I do love him and he is generally a fantastic supportive partner but his family are just a source of anger and I don't know we're to go from here