have you ever asked someone out?

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So... I met a guy through friends. I've been in his company a few times and there is something about him I really like.
Anyway I decided to ask him out - so I did (via facebook) and he said yes. All good. He is being proactive about organising the date- suggesting a date and a place so I don't think he is just humouring me. He also doesn't seem to play games - if I message him he pretty much messages me back straight away (except when he's at work obvs).

But you know how you see loads of advice that is "if a guy really likes you he will show you" and this is making me wonder if there is any point to all of this, because he didn't ask me out - I ended up taking the bull by the horns. Am I being silly? I suspect so.

I just have very low expectations of men and don't want to get all excitable about the whole thing and then be disappointed.

Don't be daft! I did once. Had a lovely relationship. He loved that I had made the move. Have fun!

I asked my dh out. I had been told he liked me but could see that he was too shy to ask me out himself.
Screw the rules.

So - a little update. The date is tomorrow and we've been texting on and off since it was arranged last week.

Randomly, I bumped into him in a bar on Saturday night - both of us were out with different friends. I was a bit mortified as I was worried that it would look like I'd tracked him down or something (which I hadn't at all - was totally random, had no idea he was going to be there, was neither of our 'local' pubs). However once he realised I was there he came right over and chatted and actually invited me to go on elsewhere with him and his friends (which I didn't, but it was nice to be asked). I think that is reasonably positive. If he wasn't interested at least a little bit he wouldn't have done that.

I think I've asked out every guy I've ever been involved with!

I asked dh out. First time i had rejection then a few months later he realised the mistake he made ;-).
Hope things work out.:)

OP, all sounds great and I'm a cynical old bat Like you said, he has been very pro-active about it all and asking you to go on somewhere the other night was also wonderful.

Stop looking for signs of failure and think positive, for god sake don't blurb about any form of insecurity on the date, past or present.

No but I dislike the current idea that you have to play it cool , not text and stuff to keep a man interested. In early days with now wonderful dp I followed that advice for a weekend and he nearly dumped me because he thought I wasn't into him and he was doing all the running !

update: went out last night, went well.
He's texted me this morning: when am I free for another drink :)

Great! Do you feel more positive now he's asked you out?

I ask guys out, I don't think I give out the signals that show people I'm interested. As long as they put in the effort for showing me they're happy to go out with me, that's enough.

Wome like you are a godsend OP, I've only been out with women who've asked me out. It's not for lack of trying, asked plenty of women out but I get the strangest reactions from full blown panic attacks to just running away. I gave up now lol
Good on ya, hope it works out for you both :)

Glad it worked out for you.I asked most of my partners out and only got a no once.Some guys are just too scared of rejection.Heaven knows where i would be if i waited for the bloke to pluck up courage,enjoy :)

How else do you initiate relationships? someone's got to make the first move.

Breakout - yes I do. I want to see where it goes, step at a time. I can often get dating wrong. I either go after entirely the wrong sorts of guy or feel pressured by guys who like me more than I like them. This feels nice.

Joe, yes realise that, which is why I asked him out! Just was looking for some reassurance as it is not something I've done before.

Soooo....know you will be bored of me but just wanted to share - went out again last night and there was kissing!
And arranged to go out again at the weekend.
Trying not to get over excitable and ahead of myself but it was a really, really good date.

Fab news! Hope it all continues to go well.