DH left in summer after affair with OW which is still ongoing. Going through divorce process and I have tried to keep communication open for sake of kids ( although I have struggled in controlling my anger) & to keep costs down. He has been particularly controlling with financial info and made things v stressful for me and now seems to be having no contact with me whatsoever. Attended mediation and they talked about our commitment as Parents for life - I cant see how this can work - he just doesnt seem to want to engage with me on any level - basic contact arrangement is in place for week & weekends & Xmas but nothing else. There are issues that I feel as parents we need to talk about - such as getting treatment for our son who is suffering emotional stress & also offered to talk about kids xmas pressies & how we do this. I get nothing back. I dont think he has any respect for me even as the mother of his kids and I am starting to feel as though I no longer have respect left for him as their father - this can only be sad for the kids(teens). I am starting to think that the only way to get through this is to behave as though he is dead- which is actually how I feel he is treating me - so to no longer think or consult him on anything and just go ahead and do what I feel is right for the kids. Am I expecting too much or is this something that happens over time.