I sound like an ungrateful cow but......

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would you be disappointed if after 6 years together your dh still doesnt havent a clue what to get you for your birthday. It was my birthday

Yes, of course you were, marthamoo.

I'm more bothered about the card, tbh. It MUST be very carefully and imaginatively homemade, it MUST be full of sloppy stuff (hmm, let me reword that-it must contain carefully composed original poem telling me how fab I am). Last year I got 10 metres of fabric because I wanted to make a sofa throw. How romantic is that? he does always take me out for a nice dinner, tho.

I've been with dh 20 years next May ( God that makes me feel so old) and unless I provide a wish list I end up with something that has taken him ages to choose but that I really don't want..... Agree w/ Sugarfree, in that if there is nothing I really want, then I'd rather get nothing.Consumerism/materialism etc etc.....
ps. Sugarfree, which festivals do you go to ?

I'm with ThomBat ....

So what's the problem ....

My DH is CRAP at lots of things ....

BUT he's also great at being a DH

I have no idea what I would like for my birthday so I don't know why DH would either.

For my most recent birthday, about 8 days after I gave birth and was feeling knackered, despondent and generally not so good, I got a Simpsons cartoon box set (I like the Simpsons but not THAT much) as DH didn't have time to go out to the shops and he had this lying around.

A woman would obviously have realised that my birthday was going to fall pretty soon after the birth and would have got a nice present in advance, but thats men for you. IMO not worth getting upset over so I didn't, in fact one of the few things I didn't complain about in the post natal first weeks.. He bought me a lovely necklace for our wedding anniversary a couple of months later.