I am quite unhappy at the moment and it has got to the point where I don't know if I should leave.
I moved in with DP a few years ago. When I moved in, one of my friends said 'oh I could never live in someone else's house'. I didn't get what she meant at the time but I do now.
DP doesn't do anything to make me feel like this isn't my home, but I spend my whole time feeling like a guest in someone else's house. I know that at any point I can be asked to leave and the lack of security isn't doing me any favours. Some of my feelings could stem from when I stayed with my dad and stepmum - I never felt welcome (by her).
As an example of the way I feel, I do all the chores at home which doesn't bother me because DP does a lot of paid overtime which I can't do - so it is a bit of a trade off (I benefit from the extra income). However, I hate the fact that I feel that I HAVE to do them otherwise I can be asked to leave. It is weird because when I lived on my own I had to do them and it never bothered me.
Our relationship is fine, we get on well and DP is a nice person but I can't help feeling like I want more. We don't have much intimacy in our relationship, which doesn't help with my feelings of insecurity. He wants us to have children and I think he would make a great dad but he doesn't want marriage (I'm aware of the legal implications of not being married but that doesn't really bother me).
I'm feeling increasingly like I want to leave but I don't know if it is the right thing. If it was a friend in my position I would probably be telling them to stop being so ridiculous as DP is such a nice person. I don't know if leaving would just be a way of running away from my insecurities
Sorry this is just a big ramble, just feel so confused.
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Knowing if it is time to leave
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afterthought · 01/11/2014 12:39
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