DH shouting at computer games.

[JennyBlueWren]

DH likes playing computer games but sometimes gets very shouty and sweary at them. It really annoys me and is distracting if we're watching a film or I'm reading. I'm especially annoyed as we'll be having a baby next year and I don't want him shouting and swearing within the hearing of the baby. I can hear him upstairs in bed even though he's downstairs.

I know he's just enjoying the game (although sometimes he's getting really angry) but would like him to stop screaming and swearing. We've talked about it and he gets upset. Sometimes he does quieten down for a while (e.g. a week or so) but also gets upset at my overreaction - I sometimes leave the room.

I also feel his gaming can be a bit too engrossing and means we're not spending time together doing other things e.g. at the weekend.

I know he'd really like an Xbox One for Christmas and at the time we talked about it he was playing Minecraft most of the time which while time-consuming is less tense and doesn't involve shouting and he can pause at any time.

Any suggestions would be welcome.

[gamerchick]

Bit of a back peddle there with an insult thrown in.. bravo

[Blithereens]

Arf at not knowing any gamers but being perfectly sure they must all be oiks

[Spirael]

Computer gaming does not just equal war games, you know. I know a lot of gamers, men and women, and very few of them play war games.

While you are entitled to your opinion SelfLoathing, disregarding all gamers as childish and unsophisticated is very close-minded of you.

[Charley50]

The problem with gaming is that it is designed to be addictive. Addition means putting more time in and often prioritizing it over other, more important things, and leading to breakdown of relationships.
(Not being melodramatic - been through it with a partner).
I suppose other hobbies can be just as time consuming though.

[Fairylea]

You are aware of big bang theory aren't you? Okay so its a tv show but is quite reflective of modern life. Sheldon and his friends are obsessed with computer games and are amongst the cleverest men in America. Enjoying computer games has nothing to do with class or intellect if that is what is intended by "sophisticated". It's very narrow minded to suggest that it is.

[gamerchick]

I don't play war games either.

I'm also not addicted and neither is my husband but it is my first choice when having a spare few hours and the house to myself. Or a night in when the kids are in bed and joining some pals online for a game of left4dead and a dammed good laugh to boot.

some people take things to the extreme but it's unfair to pigeonhole everybody because they're doing something you're ignorant about.

[gamerchick]

It is also true that any hobby can be taken to the extreme and cause the breakdown in their personal lives and relationships but nobody tells them they should have grown out of it by now do they?

[SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed]

Games are not designed to be addictive; they are designed to be compelling, 5the same as books, films, television programmes.

Also, as pp have said, gamers tend to be of above average intelligence.

[SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed]

Not sure why there is a 5 there

[MadeMan]

Shouting at video games is no different really from people shouting at the telly and surely everyone shouts at the telly from time to time?

[Espii]

self seems a bit as pretty much all the men I know play games. DP's stepfather plays games. he doesn't shout at the games, he gets frustrated. He shouts at football which I hate and had to remove myself from the room. I shout at games. Me and DP have no DCs, and don't live together, so I can shout at whatever I want. Me and DP are massive gamers.
And we are sophisticated and both have good jobs, thanks. How far up your own arse are you?

[Minus2seventy3]

Self - I have a wife, a child, and a mortgage... That's about as "grown up" as I'd like to get, thankyou.

[BlueberryWafer]

DP often shouts at his computer games. I tell him how much of an idiot he sounds. I too was worries he would do it in front of ds (now 17 months) but he never has! (Not that he ever has time to play on ps4 before ds is in bed!)