www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2196700-Embarrassed-to-be-posting-AGAIN-Ive-been-a-fool?
This is the link to my previous thread - I wanted to start a new one as Im no longer embarrassed I realise now that it doesnt matter how many years it has taken me to break free of an EA marriage or how many times I tried to make it work. Whats important is that I have now seen the light..and I am taking steps to break free.
Even though (as far as Im concerned) we separated on 27th September and I have had that conversation with H 3 times he still came to me with the can we talk line and that hang-dog expression on his face last night asking if Ive made my mind up yet if I really want to split up or now Ive had time to think things over am I ready to try again to make things work.WTF???? when I said Im still moving out he asked how long for?WTF again????
He went on and on too many details to list here and tbh Im fed up thinking about what he wants to happen, but I was amazed at how detached I felt, I answered all of his questions clearly and in words of one syllable so he would understand how I felt and how I intend to proceed. I know it isnt ideal that we are still under the same roof but the house Im moving to isnt ready and it is so perfect in terms of location and price that I will wait until it is.
In the past 5 weeks I have not given any indication that there is anything remotely salvageable in our relationship and Im frankly amazed that he has deluded himself so convincingly.
So lovely people of MN I thank you all for your support and advice. I am happy to report that I have emotionally detached and that light at the end of the tunnel is shining brighter than ever, it really is within touching distance now 
x