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worried about my DP

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FairyFluffs27 · 29/10/2014 23:57

I'll try and keep this straightforward, apologies if I don't, my head is all over the place right now.

My DP is in work on a night shift tonight, started an hour ago..he has just phoned me sounding extremely panicky and breathing really heavily, this has happened before about a year ago and he went to his drs who said it was anxiety attacks and basically just gave him a sick note for a couple of weeks.

This time seemed worse, it was actually quite scary to listen to, he was extremely confused/paranoid, he said he didn't know where he was and that he couldn't get out, he said he couldn't remember how he got to work and that he thought he must've been delivered on one of the trucks.

After about 25 minutes, his breathing totally turned normal, almost instantly and he couldn't remember what just happened, he said his head and chest hurt.

Was this a typical panic attack or something different? I'm really not sure and I'm so worried for him.

I told him to speak to his boss and to come home if he feels he needs to, I think he's worried about getting into trouble or losing his job if he does that, but surely he's not safe in work feeling like he is (his job involves operating heavy machinery)

I'm not sure what I'm asking, I just feel quite shaken up and I'm not sure what the best move is now. His job does pay the majority of our bills but to me his health and happiness is far more important, I just don't know what to do, does anyone have ant experience of supporting someone through a similar thing?

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puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 30/10/2014 00:00

I have suffer with panic attacks and find them exhausting and horrifying, but I have never been disorientated.

I would advise he goes straight to the doctors and seek medical advice. It may be more than a straightforward panic attack.

FairyFluffs27 · 30/10/2014 00:03

Thanks so much for your quick reply, I'm hoping he will agree to go the drs with me in the morning

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puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 30/10/2014 00:05

I think he needs to. The disorientation and memory loss need investigation.

Joysmum · 30/10/2014 01:55

My panic attack wasn't to the severity of now knowing how I got to places or not knowing where I was.

What helped me was my DH coming to the doctors with me. He asked if I'd like him to come with me, rather than dictating and that was what I needed in my case.

Hope your DH goes to his docs and has you there to help him articulate what happens as it doesn't sound like he'll know how he was himself.

AnotherStitchInTime · 30/10/2014 02:19

I think you need to get this seen as an emergency I.e. you need to take him to A&E tonight, it could be atrial fibrillation (can cause stroke or heart failure) or a transient ischemic attack (mini or warning stroke) with those symptoms.

FairyFluffs27 · 30/10/2014 02:31

Thanks, he's home now and seems a lot better and able to articulate what happened, he does want me to go with him to the drs to explain it from my point of view too

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 30/10/2014 07:27

Was there no-one at his workplace who saw what a state he was in?

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