Dp and I have lived together for around 18 months. I work full time, have a long commute and have 2 teenagers who I look after full time. Dp had a job till October and hasn't found anything new but has been helping out at home.
As far as I am concerned, our relationship is over. Dp takes the piss way too much in terms of how much he is going out (especially given he isn't working) and often on work nights for me so my sleep is disturbed when he comes home drunk. He is not making much of an effort to get another job at all and is supposed to be assisting on a building project yet the builder called me to say that Dp is never around and hasn't bought the materials etc
I told him it was over a few weeks ago and he needed to find somewhere else to stay. I know it will be hard as he doesn't have a job but thought he could stay with a friend. I didn't want to leave him homeless so told him it was fine if it took a week or so to sort out. A few weeks later and he has done nothing. His best friends caught me in the street and I asked if Dp had spoken to them and they both said no. I took one of them aside and told them what had happened and they were completely shocked. Dp has not let on at all what has been happening and they had absolutely no clue. She thinks Dp is in complete denial and doesn't think for a second that he can't fix this.
But it is not fixable. I had a big important meeting at work on Monday and Dp said he would be home at 7 and only got back at 11 so drunk he broke the front gate and passed out on the porch. Tonight he is not home again. I have had enough. He isn't an alcoholic, he just enjoys going out too much.
His friend said it will be v difficult to get him to leave especially as I am out of the house all day and not even around to make him go. Dp is clearly going to make it as hard as possible for me. I am wondering if I should just demand my keys back when I go to work and tell him he has to leave with me but I am also concerned the children will just let him back in later! ARGH! I know this sounds ridiculous but it is proving really difficult!