Husbands finds me unattractive

[Cate2014]

Just looking for advice ladies....I've only been married 4 months but our baby is 15 months old. All through my pregnancy and breast feeding and baby weight stage my partner wasn't really interested in sex. I just thought it was the weight/ pregnancy but even now I'm back to pre pregnancy weight he's not that interested. I always knew he was fairly looks focused (I used to be a model) but I hoped he loved me for underneath too. However tonight he more or less admitted that he only finds physical perfection attractive and finds it hard to desire people when they have physical flaws. This obviously upset me as we all get old and less pretty at some point! I'm starting to think that he might not be the right sort of guy to grow old with if this is his deep down attitude. I feel if I stay with him I will always be striving to be 'perfect' (I'm already planning a boob job ??) But I want the best for my child too. What do you think? Xx

I think you should dump him and get yourself someone who loves you for your personality not your looks.

Really? I think he is a shallow git and you can leave now or you can wait till he leaves you for a younger prettier model.

Ditto ShitHotLaywer.

I think you should write a list of all the ugly physical things about him, because I'm sure he is no adonis, and pin it to the mirror where he will brush his teeth tomorrow morning.

He sounds lovely to me. He'll make the ideal husband, by the sounds of it, it'll continue going as swimmingly as it has so far.

However tonight he more or less admitted that he only finds physical perfection attractive

What does he look like?

God. Leave this twat while pointing out all the ways in which he is not physically perfect.

Hes is good looking, 6ft4 pretty boy. I said to him what will he do when he's older as he's not gonna look like that forever and he didn't know what to say. I've suspected he was shallow for a while now even before the wedding but I felt I owed it to my little one to at least try. I think your all right. I know deep down what the score is I just wanted another opinion. Thanks again ladies xxx

He may be pretty on the outside but he's ugly inside. And that's where it counts. I think you will be setting yourself up for misery if you stay with this shallow man.

I don't think his height is perfect. There's at least two inches too much of him.

I bet he has huge feet too. Uuurrrggghhh.

Yeah I'm 34 now, I wanna relax a bit. I enjoy working out/putting makeup on but I don't want to feel I have to in order to win his approval if u know what I mean! Xx

And yeah big smelly feet and wind so that's not exactly attractive lol

Pretty is as Pretty does!

Love makes someone perfect.perfect, with all their flaws and idiosyncrasies.

Love carries you through "narrow focus on tick - the - box type perfection" and out the other side into "deepened sense of humanity"

What a knob

I've been anywhere between a size 8-22. My DH's 'appetite' to express our love physically has not changed as my size has fluctuated up and down. He loves 'me' no matter what body I'm residing in! He's not shallow and neither am I as he's a bigger bloke. I can't imagine my attraction and love for him being affected by appearance

If it was, I'd never have chosen to be with a 40 year old, not a 50 or 60 or 70 year old. As we age together, I'll be with an older man and he'll be with an older woman and it won't matter one bit.

Doesn't sound like your relationship is particularly strong or 3 dimensional if looks are that important that they are more important than who you are as a person

If you want to do your best by your child, then you will definitely dump him.

It is the problem of being beautiful (not one I've had, I might add) but you are exposed to these eejits who want a trophy wife.

If your body is no longer perfect, you have a better chance of meeting someone who is not a fool

Any please do not mutilate your body. If it was good enough to be a model, you have even less reason to do so.