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Coping with separation - struggling so much

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MNR77 · 29/10/2014 21:18

My relationship ended 3 months ago; my now ex fiance and I have a 1 year old boy. My DS spends 5 nights a week with me and 2 nights with ex (currently at his mum's). We have managed recently to get along well enough to spend days out together as a family (we even had a night out together 2 weeks ago). However, I sometimes struggle a lot with things - the relationship ending for example, and above all spending time apart from my DS. I feel overwhelmed with sadness, anger and confusion, and I end up taking it out on my ex, therefore making things awkward again between us.

Does anyone have any suggestions about coping better with things?

I don't know if I still have feelings for my ex, we have been intimate since splitting, maybe that was a bad idea.

How do I keep positive and level headed? I can't keep lashing out at my ex when we clearly need to keep things amicable for our DS's sake?

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 29/10/2014 21:26

I'm sorry you're struggling. How you're feeling is normal for the early days and I don't think it's helping you blurring the lines, going out together, having sex, playing Happy Families etc. It's painful but necessary, I think, to have a clean break. One day in the future, when you're feeling much more settled and confident, then think about being around your ex. For now, make your new life without him in it.

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