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Mother making me look small

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thaigal · 03/10/2006 13:46

Every other week me and my mum visit my grandads house, I love him to bits but he's so depressing, insists that I am depressed, fed up and lonely (I'm happier now than I've ever been!) and starts going on about what a waste of my life and what I could've done and all the bad decisions I have made etc etc....

Anyway I grin and bear it for a couple of hours and when we get outside I usually utter something like "he's as happy as ever today!" and my mum agrees and we laugh...the next week she will go to my grandad and say "when we came out of here last week she said..." and tell him what I'd said!! She does it in a jokey way but I'm sure she does it to show me up, once he phoned me which is very usual for him, I didnt get to the phone in time and I said to my mum "oh it's grandad...what have I done now?" as a joke and she repeated what I'd said to him the week after but exagurated the tone in my voice and made it sound like I couldnt stand hearing from him, he was visibly upset.

Last week my mum came to my house and said "oh, grandma is on her way here too..." so I said "oh ok..." then as a joke I said "we're not going trailing around dolls house shops again are we?" and she laughed along....then as soon as my grandma got through the door my mum repeated what I'd said to my grandma.

It really winds me up, would this annoy you too? I know the obvious answer is to not say anything to my mum but its just general conversation she twists around and it seems that she does it to make me look daft.

OP posts:
mumblechum · 03/10/2006 13:56

Have you told her how annoying this is?
I know it's hard when it's your mum, but if she realised she was upsetting you she'd probably stop

wartywarthog · 03/10/2006 13:58

have you tried pulling her up on it? asking her, in front of whoever it is why she's twisting your words? imo she's going to carry on doing it until you stop her. it's hard, i know!

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