Husband kicks off over the STUPIDEST of things

[chilloutfrgdsak8]

Okay.
And Breathe.

My husband seems to get irate over the silliest of things.
Example. Today, we were sat in the car wash.
The car wash broke down, (5 min wait max), but then they fixed it.
10 other (maybe 15) cars behind us accepted the delay.
but my DH? No way. He started kicking off, to me, then to the poor sods running the car wash, then he got out of the car and started kicking off how ''he wasn't waiting blah de blah'' ''let me out''.

The way he acted, you would have thought we were under attack from the Taliban.
But NO, this was a frigging Car Wash.

How do you deal with somebody like this?
what do you think is going on in his head?
I have never been so embarrassed.

I tried tackling him about his irrational, out of proportion behavior.... he says he was justified.

It was almost as if he was worried it would delay him. ~Delay him for what?

My dad used to go on a bit like that. He took a fatal heart attack at 70 when really he should have gone on for a lot longer. I see those signs in your husband
So get him well-insured and count the days...

Oh, and to do something I really dislike on MN, I'll ask "Is he Aspie?"
Its a classic Aspergers meltdown. He's trapped, he is not in control, he loses the plot.

Err nope. Please don't compare this twat to aspergers, seriously. Fgs.

I think it's statistically far more likely that the man's a twat, than an 'Aspie'.

Err nope. Please don't compare this twat to aspergers, seriously. Fgs.
I'm Aspergers, so are most of my family. To be stuck in a queue for a car wash would send me into meltdown - and I'd go from 'reasonable' to 'bloody raging lunatic' in a space of seconds. My dad, if forced to wait for a meal, would kick off in the same way.
I know what I'm talking about.

Next time just laugh, and laugh and laugh. Proper tears running, can't breathe stuff. When he asks what tell him it's so funny watching a grown man act like a toddler. Undoubtedly that will cause more kicking off when you can laugh more. He does it because he gets away with it. The people he directs it at are too polite/professional/intimidated to call him on it. If you can manage it video him. There is nothing more unattractive than bully boy toddler tantrums, they give me the rage (my job means I often get to handle them and have to stay professional when I actually think the perpetrator is a spoiled brat who doesn't deserve our assistance).

He's lucky the people fixing the car wash didn't down tools and pop off on their lunch break.