Heads a mess :(

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I've been feeling unhappy in my marriage for around 6 months. I feel like my husband doesn't want to communicate with me and cares very little. He's also very snappy and I feel like I'm walking on egg shells, it all came to a head when he shouted about me in front of some friends and they felt really uncomfortable, and I was mortified, and it now makes me feel on edge being around him in any social situation. I feel like a weight has been lifted everytime he goes out. Earlier in the week he said that he feels like he no longer loves me as much and his feelings have changed, but now he thinks he may be depressed and therefore is saying he'll go to a doctor.

I feel like my heart is on a piece of string and depending on what mood he blows is how I feel. On the one hand I want to run for the hills and on the other I'm wondering if he is actually depressed and doing so would be a really unsupportive thing to do.

We have two children together and I'm wondering if anyone has any advice or has been in a similar situation?

Look for the new sex/ love interest. Sorry.

You've said a lot about his behaviour but not a lot about what you want. Aside from a quieter life where you're not walking on egg shells in your own home (which sounds ghastly and I really do feel for you) what do you want from this?

If he's serious about going to seek help for depression I'd encourage you to use this as a chance to talk (perhaps to a third party with him) about how his behaviour has affected you. Maybe he's not seen this.

Sounds very difficult. You've taken a step tonight though articulating the situation above so well done. I just think others may also wonder whether you know or might now what you want here.

Thanks dotty, I honestly don't know. I just hate the feeling of being in limbo, one minute he doesn't love me and the next he's acting as if nothing has changed. I'm strong enough to be a single parent and tbh I'm pretty sure I would be a much happier person if I was. But if he's depressed it would make me a bit mean I suppose. I no longer like him as a person.

Don't allow yourself to be mistreated and then either blamed or given excuses why you should put up with it and creep around him. If he's depressed he should see a doctor and take responsibility. Everything else, zero tolerance. Stand up to him.

thanks Cogito, you are right. It's affecting my health and I get so stressed worrying about his actions. I just want to leave. He's snappy with the kids also, and I've just had enough. x

The man's an arse. You however have grown as a person and are now seeing what he is but trying not to.

I'm strong enough to be a single parent and tbh I'm pretty sure I would be a much happier person if I was.

You have your answer here.

I'm strong enough to be a single parent and tbh I'm pretty sure I would be a much happier person if I was.

And here.

I'm strong enough to be a single parent and tbh I'm pretty sure I would be a much happier person if I was.

And, finally, here.