Ex going through my bathroom bin!

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Ex comes to collect dd from my house a couple of times a week. Every single time he says he needs to use the loo and I've noticed a few times now that the rubbish in the bathroom bin has been dishevelled after he's been in there.
He was verbally and emotionally abusive when we were together and things were hard after the break up but recently I thought things were improving. Mostly due to the fact that he's seeing some other poor women, who he has told me was in an abusive relationship herself prior to seeing my ex, so I assumed he had detached from me and moved on to her...
However he still tries to pry in to my personal life occasionally under the guise of pretending to be concerned about me or something (ie. 'Oh why are you going to the doctors? I hope you're ok.' Etc etc) and now I am fairly certain he's been checking out my bathroom rubbish!
I'm not sure whether to approach him about it via text... he will no doubt deny it but I'm of a mind to say if he can't respect my privacy he's not coming in the house.
I actually move in a weeks time so I'm wondering if he will be like that in my new house... I still live in the house we shared at the moment.
He also asked for my new address today (in a text) and he said 'if you want me to know where you live that is' which I found really odd. I didn't think anything about giving him my new address until he said that (and niw the bin incidents!) So I haven't actually given it to him yet...
Feels like just as I start to think things are improving he goes and does something idiotic again!!

Don't say anything, but leave a short note on top of the trash, under the lid: "Stop going through my trash X."

I think a big sign in the bin is good too. A friend of mine had to live for a while in the family house with her ex-DH. It was agreed between the solicitors that he could not go into the master bedroom at all. She knew he was. So, she wrote a note and put it facedown on the window sill saying 'get the fuck out of my bedroom you fucking bastard'. And then laughed when his lawyers presented it all with self righteous outrage. As she pointed out- he was not permitted into her bedroom- but in prder to get an read the note he had to go into her bedroom and to the far side of the wall, and turn the note over.

but no kiss

He can't come in if he doesn't know your address...nor pick up your daughter.

Can you make other pick up/drop off arrangements?

My ex was doing this! What is it with ex's and refusing to let go?! I drew 2 pink lines onto an unused pregnancy test and left it in there. He looked like he'd been slapped when he emerged. Still looks at my belly when he comes round and it was 3 months ago I did it! (evil . )

I'm for the alarm bin, only I would take the lock off the doorso that at the first blast, I could burst in and catch the cheeky fucker at it!

Optional extra: have a camera or your phone ready when you burst in to take pictorial evidence. You can then tell him that if he attempts to go through your things again, the photo will be getting emailed to the local police station.

Even if you don't intend to do it at this stage, it may scare him off any further snooping.

I love some of the ideas here. I would have gone with emptying just before he arrives. Give yourself an air of mystery!

I think you should empty the bin and stick a pair of eyes in there ( not real ones obviously) so they're looking straight back at him. Or, stick a balloon to the bottom of the bin, use double sided tape on the lid so it sticks to the ballon when you close it and then it will burst when he opens it. never watch kids prank programmes, me

What do you think he's looking for? Condom wrappers or something? He is out of order, whatever it is.

I hope your new home brings you lots of happiness and shows this idiot that you have moved on, and so should he.

i'd be even more evil and get a hold of a positive pregnancy test and leave it for him to find

Haha! Brilliant ideas :)

I'm thinking of covering a tampon in ketchup!

My ex tried this too...the coming round for a crap every time he picked the kids up. You need to stop it. Don't let him in the house.

YY to condoms, and maybe some empty bottles of lube, the packaging for sex toys, handcuffs, lingerie etc.

If you go with the lube/sex toys etc. Include a carrot or cucumber, a good friend of mine now calls them cumcubers for this very reason. Ask if he wants a salad

Urgh, it's like he's still trying to mark his territory by using your loo. Like a cat would. Totally agree with tampon, mousetrap or note. And then doorstep handovers.

They are utter fuckwits aren't they. He won't be coming in my new place that's for sure.

What a weirdo. Glad you're no longer together.

Just ask him why he's going through your bin.

Although he will no doubt deny it, it serves the purposes of a) letting him know that you are aware of it b) ever so slightly shifting the balance back to a place where you are in charge of what goes on in your house and what comes out of your mouth!

Why not put a stop to it right away. Next time he asks to use your loo say 'sorry it's not convenient just now...bye'

Yes to mousetrap!

Get a sheep's head from the butcher (sorry to any vegetarians or vegans out there)or a gigantic rubber snake. He won't look again.

Agree with the general consensus that the doorstep is far enough into your territory from now on. What a horrible invasion of your privacy!

Or, next time he asks, just reply 'There's no point, I emptied the bathroom bin this morning. If you want to mark your so-called territory though you're welcome to piss up against the lamp-post just outside the gate.'

Maybe just really random stuff. under a layer of loo roll. Things like, a loaf of bread, a pair of slippers, a photo in a frame etc.

He doesn't have a car so he usually comes in to grab the buggy and stuff. Next time I'm going to have the buggy outside already with her bag by the door so he doesn't need to come in the house at all. If asks to use the loo I'll just say no. Don't think he's coming here till Thursday now so I'll be making sure the bin is mostly empty on that day!