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Boyfriend ignoring me

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St29 · 26/10/2014 22:13

My boyfriend of 3 months. Has a lot of stress on at moment which includes work and constant hassle from mum of his kids. On top of this he has a really bad cold and has bad asthma. He has gone from phoning 5-6 times a day and constant texting to hardly nothing. Last time he text was weds, (just one) but he has been on fb putting things on there. Time to say goodbye? I've phoned and text him but he doesn't respond

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HappyHalloweenMotherFucker · 26/10/2014 23:13

Stop stalking him. Dump him and move on

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St29 · 26/10/2014 23:14

I don't stalk him can just see him there. I'm doing it tomorrow, you have helped me decide

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HappyHalloweenMotherFucker · 26/10/2014 23:16

Good decision

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St29 · 26/10/2014 23:19

It's the only one I think. Thanks

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RayaCarmen · 26/10/2014 23:22

This thread is quite harsh, I feel like I'm on AIBU.

OP in your situation I would not text him again and wait for him to get in contact with you. Go out and tag it on fb, show him that you really are not that bothered.

When he does contact you and if you still want to be with him then explain how his behaviour is unacceptable.

Only you know if this is standard behaviour from him.

HappyHalloweenMotherFucker · 26/10/2014 23:23

Do you mean harsh to the game playing boyfriend ?

Would you put up with that bollocks ?

Monathevampire1 · 26/10/2014 23:26

Sorry but no need to dump him. You've been dumped

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St29 · 26/10/2014 23:28

He don't have exes on his fb so I don't think I have been, he's waiting for me to dump him I think

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HappyHalloweenMotherFucker · 26/10/2014 23:29

he sounds like a snivelling coward

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St29 · 26/10/2014 23:30

Happy Halloween, you make me laugh so much, you have really lifted me up. Straight to the point I like it

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HappyHalloweenMotherFucker · 26/10/2014 23:32

Listen love, you are too good for limp dicks like this

Find yourself a real man

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St29 · 26/10/2014 23:33

Pmsl I will, thank you

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inlectorecumbit · 26/10/2014 23:33

I wouldn't then give him the satisfaction of dumping him.
Just ignore and move on.
Delete his number and if he contacts you ask "who is this?" nothing better than that to put him on the back foot.
He sounds awful and a relationship should not be such hard work 3 months in

HappyHalloweenMotherFucker · 27/10/2014 00:02

that is a good point

it would really piss him off to just let him realise you couldn't be arsed to even end it

he's just not interesting enough to even dump

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St29 · 27/10/2014 00:04

Yea true but I'll have to end it cos he has my key

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FolkGirl · 27/10/2014 06:18

In that case I wouldn't end it so much as wait a few days and contact him asking for you key back. Nothing about "I take it we're over, so i'd like my key back" because it reads like he has all the power. And why did someone you've only been dating for 3 months have a key to your place anyway? Your home is your safe place, don't give your sanctuary away so easily in the future.

One more thing, the very intense stuff at the very beginning can be a bit of a red flag. When coupled with sudden silence, while he is still active on FB etc, so clearly not hiding from the world, it definitely sounds like you've had a lucky escape!

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