Friends other half

[olderandwiser11]

Hi all,

I really would like someone's opinion on my friends situation.

He met this Woman almost 2 years ago we will skip the first year because it was all good.
But on Valentines Day this year he brought her 24 Red Roses and Dinner and a pair of Silver earrings, she told him she didn't like the earrings and could they take them back and change them for something else. He agreed so off they went on the following Saturday to change them, she asked several times how much they cost and he declined to answer. So the shop obviously said no we can't exchange them as they are earrings, so outside the shop she asked him two or three times again how much did they cost and he lied and said £90.
So she said she would write to the shop to complain, he then said i lied they were only £15 she went mental and didn't talk to him for a week. at this point he was spending thousands renovating a old house and money was tight.
He brought more Roses and left them with a card to say sorry which she accepted.
A month ago she finished with him saying she can't see how it will work as her house is worth 3 times his house and she has no mortgage. And dosn't want anyone with a mortgage after the debts her husband run up.
He is desperately in love with her and he is taking her out for a meal next weekend in the nice new car he has just brought after selling his house.

I think he should forget her, he may not be the best looking man in the world but he deserves better he saved her a fortune by fixing the fridge and the dishwasher all he got was a thank you.

There is more to it but i have given you the basics.

Thank you for reading my post.

There is nothing much you can do other than stand by to help him pick up the pieces once she well and truly breaks his heart.

Thank you for reading my post.

Er, no problem.

I worked with a mercenary bitch like this. All she could see was how much money a guy had and how much of that he was prepared to spend on her.

He needs to get out of the relationship.

is this a duplicate thread ?

He will appreciate hearing this from someone else.

Sorry i posted twice by mistake

She will not stick around when someone else willing to spend more money on her appears so obvious from what you have said. He needs to be nice to himself and even if it takes years value his decent friends etc and give the likes of this person the boot quickly.

Sorry meant even if it takes years to meet someone who loves him for who he is.

My initial thoughts were that she is no good for your friend but then I read the bit about her ex husband and can see how this has deeply affected her.

As for the earrings I think it would have been polite for her to accept them gracefully.
Could she have gone mental because your friend lying reminded her of her husbands lies?

I think it is upto your friend to work it out for himself. Be there for him if and when it all falls apart though.

I worked with a mercenary bitch like this. All she could see was how much money a guy had and how much of that he was prepared to spend on her

I think it is unfair to describe this woman as a mercenary bitch. You are overlooking this part:

A month ago she finished with him saying she can't see how it will work as her house is worth 3 times his house and she has no mortgage. And dosn't want anyone with a mortgage after the debts her husband run up.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with people having specific and individual requirements for what they want in partner - particularly when, in effect they are saying "I expect in a partner what I am offering".

If she has no debt and is in substantially different income bracket from him, she may not want to ally herself with someone who has a very different financial situation. Particularly if she has had difficulties with debt in the past.

She may also have been pi.ssed off with him lying about the value in the first place - which is actually worse than spending £15 on earrings.

Money is the single biggest cause of friction in relationships. Recognizing this and only choosing to date people in the same/similar financial position as you is not "mercenary" at all.

Your friend in the short term is hurting but is actually better off without this type of women. She and previous husband have had a certain level of income and lifestyle. She will not settle and no matter how much he gives there will be a bigger fish who is out there. No doubt whilst she won't date down will no doubt be happy to date someone who has a lot more and be expected to fund her relationship. Whilst some women will see her looking after herself I would say she appears be potentially financially abusive if the relationship had continued and shallow.

Whilst some women will see her looking after herself I would say she appears be potentially financially abusive if the relationship had continued and shallow.

"financially abusive"? "shallow"? based on that post? That's just ridiculous.

It is not shallow to want financial security. Equally, if you are yourself financially secure, it is not abusive or shallow to expect your partner to be in the same position.