Super embarrassing dating site blunder

[Dinnerfourone]

So, I joined match.com and was looking through my local search and clicking on a few profiles and I stumbled across one of my Dc's teachers and stoopidly clicked on it.

I help out at school and "know" him and he's totally going to know I was checking him out

What's the etiquette in these circs?
Ignore and hope it goes away, it is half term so won't be seeing him for at least a week. I really don't want him to think I'm some sort of crazy stalker. Argh!

Well, he's on Match with a photo isn't he, so he can't be too surprised if someone recognises him! And having recognised him, of course you're going to look at his profile...That's all, really. You'll both know, neither of you will say anything, and that will be that! What will you do if he messages you?!

Click on it again, go to the bottom of his profile and click hide and blacklist. He won't know you were looking at his profile and he won't come up in any of your searches.

Loads of people use dating sites, no stigma anymore

Haha, is he good-looking? ;)

Good shout cobwebs, I'll do it now.

If he messaged me I'd cringe with embarrassment for about 30 seconds and then I'd reply, he's lovely

But really not the greatest of ideas at all. Oh Lordy, this online dating malarkey is not for me.

Ahh, that puts a different spin on it. If you like him then I'd leave it that you've checked him out and see if he looks at you

He's just your DC's teacher, he's not your GP after all - that would be weird.

Well, I can't seem to find him now. That means he's blocked me, right?

Earth swallow me up now.
How do I rock up to his classroom now ?

How do I rock up to his classroom now

Just exactly as you normally do. Honestly, there is no shame in online dating. He's on there too after all. Don't fret.

He may have blocked you for the same reason that you were going to block him, that it would be a little strange given the circumstances - even if he did fancy the pants off you.

Plenty more, good luck

You cant find him beause youve blacklisted him, surely...?

Thank you

But now he's got the upper hand and will totally think I fancy him.

I'm overthinking this now

No sponge, I didnt.
I was looking for him to blacklist him but he's gone from my search. Which means he got there first.

Please don't feel bad. It happens, he probably would have clicked on your profile eventually too.

Carry on with your search.

Ah. I think he's prob seen you, thought 'hmm, that could be weird' , just like you did, and blocked. Act as though nothing's even happened.

Act as though nothing's happened!

Is this like linkedIn when you totally go round searching for exes people you know, and then it tells you who's been looking? Ah shit. Been there.

But you're both on Match because you're looking for a relationship. It's not like your, eh, attentions are uninvited. Just be a grown up about it, act like it never happened, and if there's a natural conversation where you can say, "yeah I've tried internet dating", then drop it in so he knows you've not been pining for him across the left handed sissors and pva glue. You've gotta pretend like you have to run to the shop to buy more fucks to give, because it looks like you're all out just now.

You've gotta pretend like you have to run to the shop to buy more fucks to give, because it looks like you're all out just now

That one is going in my notebook of things to remember for sure!

Wow. That is going to requirw bravery.

My advice, dont act embarrassed. Dont apologise for it.

How well would he know you? Does the site have your name? He might not even realise h's you (I don't use dating sites so sorry if this is totally not how it works)

but TheCraicDealer I always check out linkedin for various people (the man who interviewed me recently, the man I've been dating checked me out on there) etc...

great stalking tool but not very anonymous!

oh god worries about linked in
you have to be a member on the site to know you have looked surely. Unless their profile is open to all anyway?

Please don't feel embarrassed. He's possibly a bit embarrassed himself that someone from school has spotted him that's all. It won't be personal. Just smile at him as normal when you next see him.