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What do I do now?

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LocoInTheCoco · 26/10/2014 12:50

Hey guys think I need some advice. Long story short OH and I have been married for 11 years and have 3 DC. I have been unhappy for a long time (grown apart, love him but not in love with him etc) and we have been going to counselling for a few months. Anyway at our last counselling session we came to the decision that things weren't changing and so agreed to a trial separation with OH moving out today. Unfortunately I made the mistake of having a couple of wines on Friday night and we ended up sleeping together. Since then OH has been acting like everything is fine, no mention of leaving today, talking about us going on holiday and even putting deposits down in a new house! I know it's my fault for leading him on/giving him false hope but I don't know what to do now, I know we slept together but it doesn't change how I feel and I still think he should be moving out so do I just come out with it? I hate hurting him but think dragging it out will make it worse in the long run. What do you think? Xx

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LineRunner · 26/10/2014 12:54

When you had sex, did you tell him you loved him, wanted to be with him? What did you actually say? Does he have grounds to think things are 'ok'? (Even though they clearly aren't.)

And please don't bugger the DCs about.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 26/10/2014 12:56

I think all you can reasonably do is be honest. Say the sex was a mistake, it hasn't changed anything and the separation is still on. It's probably going to hurt his feelings but I don't see how you can avoid it.

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