How to tell if ex is over you?

[astewart]

Bit of a weird ask I guess.
Ex has done some really malicious things since our break up and I expect there's not much more he can do. He seems quite happy with his new girlfriend, he's had a few before and they haven lasted. I spoke to him a few weeks back (massive achievement for us to be in the same room!) and he was on about gettin his snip reversed to have children with his new partner of 8 weeks! There was holiday pics up of them both all round the house and his general attitude has changed. Although he now emails me quite regular which is strange, he stopped for a very long time and we always rowed, so far for the past few weeks he's emailed every mon-wed without fail (doesn't email thurs-sun as it's classed as his weekend and god forbid should I ask him to have the kids!)
So my question is, was there ever a point you finally realised, yes, he's over it?

Yes, when he told me he was getting remarried. Mind you he still sends me the same bitchy messages by text so while I think he is over me he still wants to keep me in place as his emotional punch bag. Dickhead.

I'm a bit confused. Why does this matter to you?

If you're sure it's over and you've been clear about that then what he may or may not feel for you is not your concern.

I am a bit confused by your post. It sounds very much to me that he is over you.
Perhaps the question to ask yourself is: are you over him?

I think it's hard to move on (in the clinical way many MNetters think you should) when someone is saying and doing things that seem to show they're over you but on the other hand are also doing things like sending endless emotionally charged messages and constantly being in your face so still keeping you entangled.

I totally understand where you're coming from OP.

I'm just wondering if there's any more to come from him.
He's been very bitter the past year and when I wen round the pics on the wall just struck me as, well, obvious really, like he was trying to prove something. To tell me he was going for his snip reversed was just comical!
I hope he is on all counts, the sooner we can be amicable for the kids the better, I've tried to be for so long but he's refused.

Yes nikki, they aren't really emotionally charged, they are pointless really, random things which aren't really of interest to me, just trying to engage me into conversation really.

It's similar though isn't it? Constantly making you wonder why he's bothering? Making sure he's in your head.

I got round it by getting a cheap PAYG phone just for him (known as The Twat Phone here) and only switching it on once a day for messages. Kids have their own phone so he can call them or they can call him.

Well I certainly won't be having anymore just to test the water!