How to leave my husband?

[CalmAndConfused]

Hi,

So after 11 years and a lot of shit I have decided to leave my H. I have gotten close to doing so several times, but I have always given it '1 more try'. I am so sick of this endless dance that we do, and think I am now mentally ready to leave.

So how do I actually do this? Part of me is just waiting for our next conflict, where he will inevitably ask me what we are doing together and do I want him to leave - to which I would actually reply yes. However I know this isn't actually the best way to do it!

So how do I do it properly? What steps do I take? How do I stay strong and resolved? We privately rent and have 2 young DDs.

Thanks

Sorry things have broken down. A lot is going to depend on your husband. Do you think he'll be reasonable or obstructive? Suggest you get good legal advice, take someone IRL into your confidence so that you have moral support and then have an idea what will happen about living arrangements, money, that kind of thing.

Just wondering . . .

During the 11 years have you and your H ever gone for counselling?

Yes I have my sister who knows and is supportive. My mum will also be when I tell her.

No, no joint counselling together. He wouldn't do it anyway because of money and he doesn't think they would tell us anytime we couldn't work out ourselves. Also there may be EA, so not really suitable anyway.