How do u make ur self not give a shit?

[Captainbarnacles1101]

I never go out in the evening. I do see all my friends during the day and have a good circle of friends. However one old friend has now got a day job and so I can only see her in the evening. I told my kids and my OH I'm meeting her tonight just for a coffee and I'll b back by nine.

The usual old shite is happening now. The silent treatment form OH, not enough to not speak at all but enough to be noticed. The older kids are asking why I have to go out? What happens if blah blah. I don't feel well blah blah blah. Honestly this is why I never fecking go out!!!! It's not worth the guilt! I'll be rushing home tonight now cos I feel bad about going out yet my OH regularly goes to football matches etc and never bats an eyelid! If I ask what's the problem he denies there is one.

So mumsnet, how do I not give a shit?????? How do I forget them all and go out and enjoy a natter with my oldest friend?
TIA

I'm not sure if your aware of this but that is actually classed as emotional abuse. It's controlling and bullying!

You make sure you go. Don't feel guilty because that's exactly why they're doing it! Have a lovely time and tell your dh to grow up.

I think you need to have a chat with h. Ask him why he is being a passive aggressive controlling twat.

Whatever he's like when the time comes, you just go out regardless.

I stand by my earlier post, it'd important this is addressed and he understands and supports you because people in a relationship should want the other to be happy.

If you just keep going out without him appreciating why you feel as you do, that's a wedge between you and you aren't as close as you should be.