OMG I think I've made a huge mistake :'-(

[bossmummy1]

I've posted b4 but can't find the pp's
Long story short dh was sexting bf 2 yrs ago but I only found out 6 months ago. Stayed together 4 6 months after me burying my head in sand and thinking I could 'deal' well couldn't and separated 2 weeks ago. Well met him face 2 face 2nite after he dropped kids off and after a chat in his car I for some unknown reason said I'd give him a 2nd chance .
I dnt know if it was his sorry's and regrets speech and I felt sorry 4 him or because I thought I was strong enuf to face him (obviously not)
Because for the past 3 hrs all I have is a feeling of dread that I've made a mistake but how the hell can i go back after saying yes!.
Not only is that cruel to raise someone's hope then stamp on it but it's also my dc to consider to.
Granted he still hasn't moved back in yet but I've got that dreaded knot in my stomach and have been crying as i know that it isn't what I want but now I'm just gunna have to go along as I already said yes.
Ffs what a mess

Do it by text since he's so fond of texting

In fact you should sext him

"I've been thinking properly about us being back together and I think you should fuck yourself."

Get your big girl's pants on and text him with any of the responses given above.

Surely the happiness of your DC and yourself is more important than momentarily upsetting that tosser him. He seems not to have had any such consideration for your or DCs feelings. Why waste your life, and damage the childhood of your DC, for someone who will only hurt you all again.

Well, if you feel that much of a sense of dread about it then obviously you are entitled to tell him that you have changed your mind - and it's better to do it sooner rather than later BUT giving him a second chance doesn't mean he has to move back straight away. It could mean that you agree to meet him and talk through things, that you both go to Relate or something, and that you see how it goes. Your children don't have to know about it if that's the way you go about things, in fact probably better if they don't for a while. He is the one at fault here and you are the one who gets to decide how it goes now.

Good luck

You realise you made a mistake. Don't make even more of a mistake by continuing to go through with the mistake !

The only thing worse than telling him you've made a mistake would be not telling him and putting the kids through this whole cycle again.

Listen to your gut.
Respect yourself, and care for yourself enough not to walk into a situation that you know makes you unhappy and uncomfortable.
You always have the right to say "no".

To me, my love for my husband means I'd put him before me, he feels the same way.

If he loves you that much, he'd love and respect you enough to support your choice in what's best for you.

If he doesn't, he'll play every trick to get what he wants, just as he did when sexting.

I hope you have told him. It will come out so the sooner the better.