What do you do when so lonely?

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I am so achingly lonely. Have been single for several years and no relationships/flings/ons in that time at all. I have a very busy job and DC but I long for someone to chat to, have a glass of wine, go out on a date with. Tried online dating but no good. How can I deal with this loneliness?

I don't know what I am hoping to achieve by posting. I suppose I feel silly about telling my friends and family that I am lonely. I have hobbies, although am unable to get out much in the evenings due to small DC.

Every now and then I get swamped by feeling like this.

Thanks for reading

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I was about to suggest spice! A lovely friend (who was single for many years) joined some Spice things when she moved towns for work. She also joined a singing group and did some voluntary work for a nature charity as an organised walk leader. The guy she eventually met (and is now with) was another volunteer. But she got to know lots of new people through Spice and made some enduring friendships.

Loneliness can be so defeating. Hope you find someone soon. In the meantime, try to look at ways you can enjoy your own company. Things to do in the evening when alone, or hobbies and pastimes that take the edge off the loneliness. Also, maybe some volunteering or charity can help fill a void. When someone shows appreciation and that they need you, it makes life a little bit more bearable.

Oh really, I'll just sit here in my festive socks drinking my bodyweight in tea and hopefully someone will knock on the door?

This made me laugh! So true.

I completely agree Self. It's not about sex - although that would be nice. But someone to cuddle after a crap day, or someone just to hold hands with (that isn't DC).

I appreciate the support on this thread thank you

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