Late late 30s and suddenly sex mad

[NotAnotherNewNappy]

Embarrassingly, I haven't even NC for this as I knew you'd think I was a hairy handed trucker. I am in my late 30s and over the last year my libido has gone from once a month to once a day. Is this normal? Has this happened to you? How did your DP/H react?!

I don't know what's happened.. Is it because the DC are finally getting easier (3yo & 6yo)? My body trying to make a last chance baby? The mirena coil wearing off (been on it 3+ years)?

Suddenly I want to try everything that I was too shy to explore in my 20s... BDSM, toys, Brazilian waxing etc

And lastly (lots of questions I know, but I've been dying to ask and will now I'm on the wine), what's the difference between erotic literature & porn? I.e. If I can't stop reading erotic stories, does that make me a dirty perv??!!

Porn - pornography - is images not words

Increased sex drive is quite normal in women your age. I thought this was rather well known, but apparently not.
For me it was about generally feeling more confident, happier in life and more accepting of myself and definitely not about wanting to make a last chance baby.
Anyway, enjoy it while it lasts!

Not getting into the porn discussion.

I thought it was well known too. Happened in my early 30s. I never got the urge to explore Brazilian waxes though. maybe that's still to come.

No experience to offer really, but could you nudge my missus that kinda way (I'll pass on the BDSM though...)

I thought it was a Mrs Robinson type male fantasy that never really happened. After DC, I genuinely thought my chandelier swinging days were over...

OMG just came across this thread! It is exactly what I am going through now! I am 38, have 6 yrs old and 4 mths old children.Somehow I started discovering/enjoying new things and introducing them into our sex life. Then I decided I want 2nd child and since falling pregnant I became as horny as when i was teenager(i was shy teenager though and never used it)! From twice a week to twice a day...Ok, it happens in pregnancy but it carries since. I was ready for sex 2nd day after giving birth. Hubby enjoyed it to some extend during pregnancy claiming pregnant body is sexy although there were signs he needs much less than me. But after ds was born we hit difficult times in sex matter. Hubby's libido is gone. He is forcing himself once every 7-10 days. Adding me wanting all the time you can imagine tension is growing. He sort of enjoys new things but when asked is there anything he wants he says no. Frustrating...He is a very good dad and supportive husband but I feel I start resenting him because of all that. We had multiple very tactfull but open chats about it and he offered he will go to GP but didn't find the time in 3 months.
We have been together 13 years and now suddenly I started feeling I am wasting my life although I love him and there is no way I could leave him. I can not predict what is going to happen if things stay the same.
It looks we were happier without my sex drive. Funny enough my first relationship ended quite similar but we were young then me 24 and ex 29 and childless. Ex decided I want too much sex and he is too tired (yeep, at 29). Then I met my husband and he didn't complain at this time. Sort of scarry to look at the problem from that perspective. The only two men I ever been with ended being sexualy exploited. One would think I am some kind of nimfomaniac but believe me I am not. Difficult to say should I laugh or cry now. More like cry...

I think it's normal... I'm about to hit 50 and things are just calming down again :) I think it's a happy combination of the complete loss of self-consciousness, feeling relaxed in your own skin and relaxed with your partner, NO lingering inhibitions and the vague MLC-esque feeling that this is as good as it's going to get so might as well make hay while the sun shines....

How strange I remember feeling more relaxed and up for it from my late thirties too!

Weird.

I'm 43 and definitely true. Right Through The Roof. I don't want it to calm down :( DH might die from exhaustion before it does though...

I had this after coming off the pill. Went from once a month to once a day. DH couldn't keep up. . I have gone on HRT and it has gone again. Still, it was nice whilst it lasted.

Cogito you are right, it is normal abnormality so to say, spot on on MLC. Unfortunately grass not growing for me recently no hay then
DayLillie so maybe me not having Mirena (planning baby, having baby, not having new one fitted) is contributing to this 'problem'. The question is is having new Mirena going to improve my relationship with sex drying out?
It looks like blessing for some and curse for the others.

I'm in my early 30s and very encouraged by this thread!

49, no partner, high sex drive. oh dear

43 and yes it's true. DP completely worn out, but happily new enough to still be game.

Yes, this has happened to me and it has turned my Whole.Life.Upside.Down.

It took about 3/4 of a year to kick in fully but when it did - at the end of February this year when I was 38, oh my God did I know it!

Sex every day, twice a day sometimes. Orgasms every day, orgasms that blow the roof off. I also rediscovered my very latent submissive side after 10 years so now I am heavily involved in the BDSM scene.

Unfortunately for me, it has led to the collapse of my marriage as in conjunction with the increased sex drive, I lost 4 stone, finally worked out what colours suit me and what clothes suit me. Began to open up to people and let them in for the first time in many many years.

But my self-esteem is in tatters. It was what had let me stay in the marriage for so long (together for 18 years, married for 12). At times, a extremely unhappy marriage which led me to the brink of suicide after the DC2 was born.

I have clawed my way back from the brink and finally, finally now I am closer to the person who I was originally meant to be.

I now have a Dom who I adore but whilst he is wonderful the situation is not great.

A great time of awakening but the most turbulent time of my life. I will never forget this summer.

And to add, I have asked quite a few people about this - late 30's sex drive thing.. not many peoples seem to know about it. So it's either less common than people think or women simply aren't discussing i in any great numbers.

Yes. It's wonderful.