Am I Over-reacting?

[Hasle157]

I have a 3month old daughter whom I adore after a traumatic pregnancy. I had lots of health issues, leading to lots of time off which resulted in being alienated and unfairly treated in the workplace by my
manager and a couple of colleagues within my department. I was ignored and made to feel guilty for taking time off for illness and my manager said 'I couldnt care less about the sex of your baby.'
My husband just so happens to be best friends with my manager and regularly meets him and the colleagues after work for social gatherings (my husband works there too.) I understand that they've been friends for years but this just a huge kick in the teeth. I feel betrayed and he's completely aware of how I feel about them and the way I was treated. Today I was diagnosed with PND and during my assessment I broke down in tears over it. I havent been happy with him and the way he's chosen to.spend his time with them for months and now I'm so angry, I want to leave him. Am I over reacting?

Er... does he know that's what his best friend said?

OP this sounds pretty horrible and I would be upset too.

Surely your H is best friends with this guy you know him socially as well?

And wouldn't your manager give a shit about his best friend's baby? I thought 'best friends' were interested in each other's lives at least to some extent, and becoming a father might just register on the scale.

Obviously your DH is not responsible for what your manager/his friend said, but wasn't he shocked when you told him? Did he not say 'How dare he say that to you, I'm going to have a serious word with him.' ? What was his reaction

He said it's probably just his sense of humour! He likes to see the best in everyone... even when they're being arseholes to his pregnant wife.
I do know them socially but only through my husband and my experience of social gatherings with them is usually me being ignored and any contribution I make to the conversation cast aside.
They have never even acknowledged the fact that we were having/have had a baby apart from the visit when she was born and my husband just seems to adapt to whatever topic of conversation is initiated by them. They never bother to ask about me or the baby when I'm not there according to Hubby!

It's wrong they treated you badly in work. But your husband still works there and needs to maintain a good relationship with them.
I think your anger is heightened by your pnd and you are probably also thinking about it all the time.
You need to try to step away from your thoughts about it to help you heal.
Have a read up about mindfullness , it's really helpful.
There's an ap called head space which may help. (It's free).
Don't leave your husband over this as there's too much to loose. Just take time to get rid of pnd and feel like you again.