Hello, I am a regular lurker on this site. I just love the advice and topics discussed here and now i'm here hoping to get some advice on my situation.
Two weeks ago I moved to sweden on a temp basis with my girlfriend of a year an a half. We met in the UK whilst he was visiting and then after a long time of her coming back to visit me off and on and with regular skyping she decided to move to the UK for us to be together. However this did not go to plan as she got herself into a lot of debt to her friends and family in sweden trying to fund a place and other things. To cut a long story short she now after a year of being in the UK had to go back to sweden to get rid of the debts. Reasons being it much cheaper to rent here, she had her old job ready to go back to which pays better and she was only getting herself in deeper whilst in the UK due to alot of mistakes on both our parts!
So I have now taken on my course as part-time and im here and I can't cope! firstly we are in a different cabin to what she said we would be in, this is in the middle of nowhere, closest shop 2 hour walk, no transport, and our new cabin had no furniture etc. My dilemma is the fact that she wanted me here soo badly and the plan was to be here for so many months to pay of her debts then go back to the UK more securely. But she has panicked about money and now feels she cannot go back as shes safer here and has a history of debts. So what do i do now? I dont receive money for a few weeks, im finding it extremely difficult here, she mood has changed and shes angry, stressed, and generally not very welcoming. BUT insists I stay and is trying to get me to move in indefinitely - however I must go back to brighton next year to finish.
Ahhh this is getting long and is mostly drivel! My concern is that now im part-time ill have less money to move to brighton, not very possible for long-term now, here i thought i might get a job or do something but im kind of stranded here for 6 weeks now until we move again to somewhere with transport and a shop.. I miss the uk sooo much, i can't even call friends or family here, i feel very alone. She works nights alot. So what can I do? stay in hopes of her maybe coming back to the UK (shes said she wants to and might) and to stick it out, try to enjoy it here? I am trying! or go back to my parents where I would be comforted in the uk but our relationship would end, and it would be depressing. I have alot of stress and anxiety, I wish i never came and could go back to Brighton, even better I wish we was in brighton like how it was. I dont understand the change it her and i feel awkward being here now knowing we probarly will en when I do go back.
I dont know what Im asking for, any advice, stories of struggles in new countries. I feel so alone and don't even have her as support anymore. I keep crying that im losing everything and feel quite weak.
Sorry for typos and lack of proper terminology! First post :D Thank you for listening.