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Can anyone help me understand this behaviour?

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DefinitelyMaybeLove · 20/10/2014 17:19

So I've been seeing new BF for a few months. He's absolutely great, is very attentive, kind, makes the effort for me and lavishes me with compliments about my appearance, my personality and the way I make him feel etc. At this moment I can't fault him at all so I know the problem is with me and not him.

When I first met him I had quite a lot of confidence in myself but as my feelings for him have developed, this self esteem has been eroded. I'm now paranoid that I'm not good enough for him, don't understand why he finds me attractive, overanalyse my own behaviour around him and convince myself that I'm being a complete dick and cringe about small things I've said/done over and over. I struggle to accept his compliments and don't know what to say when he tells me I'm beautiful.

Does anyone have any insight into why I'm doing this? I know I should just be enjoying my new relationship but this is putting a downer on it all.

OP posts:
aujordoui · 20/10/2014 17:31

Could you be anxious that it won't last? 'Too good to be true' kind of reasoning?

Drumdrum60 · 20/10/2014 17:57

Yes but why are you feeling like this? Are you normally like this with bf? If not then it must be something to do with him as well . Think carefully.

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