Filling in Divorce Forms: how much detail?

[Monny]

God knows if I can really go through with this [be strong, there is no real alternative, tho' gawd knows what will happen next in my life].

Anyway, when filling in the bit about unreasonable behaviour, how much detail should I go in to? I am prone to wittering on and there's only a little box on the form... How do you fit 6 items of twatish behaviour in there with evidence? If I am very brief in my examples, it may leave questions and gaping holes in the saga... Should I attach evidence or will the judge fall off his bench at excessive 'content'?

How much should I write?
( Please note : incidents below are made up to stay anonymous)

Is it just:

1. DH is prone to bouts of aggressive behaviour and threw a banana in anger on 21st October '14.

or

1. DH is prone to bouts of aggressive behaviour: a) 21st October '14: DH is obsessed with the fruit we have in the house. We had no apples, in anger he threw a banana at the wall with extreme force. This left me feeling scared. b) 9th Jun '11: DH was trying to watch a TV programme but could not find the remote to increase the volume. He blamed me for losing (in spite of me never touching it) and then aggressively banged the wall three times with his fist leaving a dent. This behaviour was over the top and left me feeling nervous and scared. c) etc.

Thanks from the witterer.

Hi, I've recently been through this process. I wrote mine as per your first example. I wrote about 4-5 examples of different unreasonable behaviour, all dated, with a brief sentence about each. It is such a tiny box! Mine was approved btw :-)

Also it's good to mention how the behaviour made you feel.
I.e on 21/10/14 DH threw a banana in anger, which frightened me.

Thanks!! As well as examples in the last 6 months, can I go quite far back such as 2011 or even 2007?

I'd say the first way. As suggested do say which made me feel intimidated/ betrayed/ anxious/ abandoned/ isolated/ / vulnerable/ threatened for each one so that the impact upon you is clear. As the document is to demonstrate you cannot be reasonably expected to remain married.

My oldest event cited was from 18 months before I lodged the petition. I read that apparently if you lived with a behaviour for two years, it's no longer classed unreasonable as you put up with it so to speak.

Hi monny. I only used things from 6 months prior to separation. Some general like no sex and some about specific arguments with a date and words which were said. I gave 6 examples all in all. One being date he left and fact he hadn't lived at marital home since.

I carried on on a separate sheet of A4 and just attached it to the document and said continued on separate sheet. My decree nisi awarded last Monday

Thanks all - much appreciate your help! I spent too much time staring at it and you've helped me form a succinct list rather than a bleh of head mess going back to the dawn of time.

Although I can fully appreciate the 18months rule, I was in such a mess and left so exhausted that I didn't have the oomph left in me to take action. Still, I think there's more than enough in the last 18 months... Hey ho.

BTW sorry you have all had to go down the divorce root too and I hope that life is treating you better now x

I am dreading doing mine as I am still at the stage where I want him back and love him but he wants the divorce. My reasons would be lack of support following miscarriage, lack of support during illness. Can I put things like putting hobbies before family? Not helping around the house? Lying about finances??

Pieceofpurplesky - it's a hard journey isn't it? I'm sorry about your miscarriage and the rough ride you've been having. It was only because of the sensible advice on Mumsnet that I woke up to what was happening to me and that things were only getting steadily worse. Also, if my DH can have so little empathy for me, he can't really love me all that much, so why I am I wasting my life on someone who makes me feel awful. Also, do I want him in charge of my wellbeing if I have the misfortune of being incapacitated? Um, no. Thinking hard has helped me see the cycle of our relationship for what it is - and. that's helped break the spell.

As for your reasons, I'm no expert but I think divorces have been granted for less.

purplesky if he wants the divorce , is he divorcing you? if so, he's the one who gives the details of UB.

No he wants me to divorce him