H ive been posting various threads on what im going through - Im sinking -its the constant mixed messages doing my head in and I feel like i have no say in anything. The big hurdle is looming which is whether we get to stay in the family home - i doubt this is possible but DH says it is but it will be on his terms. We had a psycotherapist at our mediation session - i asked him what his background was and he told me he negotiates with hostage situations. That is exactly what I feel like - I might as well be trying to negotiate with a monkey. DH has told me to stop being angry and I need to move on- How can i move on when we are in limbo and having to dance to his tune all the time - its playing a game where the rules constantly change - I know ill get through this but its dealing with it in on a daily basis at the moment - i just cant get away from it - I'm aready on Ads & seeing counsellor - some words of advice please