Is this disrespectful

[okeydonkey]

I've had a terrible week with a poorly 2year old who is now on antibiotics, hardly any sleep. I am feeling rotten with heavy cold and nearly in 3rd trimester of pregnancy. I've also had terrible working week. We had planned as family to visit friend for weekend and visit s large tourist attraction. We were going to cancel but soldered on. I'm so ill and tired and stayed in at my friends and not long after putting any to bedo went to bed. OH went out with my friends husband. Thought they were Hong for 2 drinks but he's just come home. I wS awake for ages after realising he wasn't home worrying about the state of him. He's not too bad since arriving but I'm so cross that he has no respect for me. I want to be with someone who thinks "oh what a hard week for Ok I will get home reasonable time and not disrupt sleep eye"is he bring disrespectful or am I being a moody demanding partner.

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To bed
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Sorry typos that was meant to say.
Disrupt her sleep

After putting baby to bed I went to bed

No that's rubbished I would not be very happy either he's being a selfish git

Thanks for reply. I get so confused with what's acceptable or not. He's sleep, 2 year old in travel cot. I'm wide awake with throbbing face, sore throat and feeling quite sick and sleep deprived. He will turn it on me tomorrow and say that I'm nasty to him

Now he's snoring, farting and burping. I hate him!!

Not really disrespectful in my opinion, probably didn't think it would be that big of a deal.

You're on a family holiday visiting friends, so it's not like he sees them all the time. He is entitled to enjoy his holiday as well and it's not like he did it on purpose to piss you off.

Don't get me wrong, it sucks that you feel bad, but you are being a tad controlling. How about you mention to him how crappy you feel and that you need him to do more when you get home so you can get better.

He's knows how bad I feel as I've been pale and swollen face last few days. He's got a history of alcohol abuse. He doesn't know my friends husband at all.
I've just had to rescue him from sleepwalking and weeing in random place in my friends house

Maybe you are right Syk. I've hardly slept and feel rotten, whic has probably distorted it.
But we have massive issues in our relationship anyway

Well the alcohol abuse thing definitely explains why you feel how you feel, as does him not really knowing your friend's husband at all.

Given how drunk he is and how you need to "look after him" even though you're as sick and in your late second trimester, it is very inconsiderate to get as drunk as he has.

Also, I can't say I'd have much respect for someone who gets themselves as drunk as your husband is right now, especially when they have responsibilities... as his nights enjoyment will render him pretty useless for tomorrow as well... not very fair to you.

Do you want to talk about your other issues?

We just don't get on anymore. The arguments are awful. He just says I'm miserable. He always says I've got issues and don't get on with anyone. He won't admit he's wrong. He doesn't arrange to take me out anywhere. He sleeps downstsirs most nights.

Are you miserable? Or is he making you miserable? Can you remember a time when things were better? What has changed?

If he's unhappy he should leave, not make you feel bad. If he cared he wouldn't treat you so poorly.

Are you happy? Do you want to stay together?

I'm not miserable but I'm very hurt still as when I had lo he went out and got drunk all the time, but really really drunk and wasn't supportive of me. Didn't understand that he was the breadwinner. I find it hard to get over. I look at him and I feel hatred. We did not plan 2nd one.
He just tries to back his actions up by twisting it and saying it's because I've got isssues, rather than he has done something wrong. I do have issues so to speak,I wish for a proper relationship with respect. I am very sensitive to others comments andi get very angry easily.

I don't know if I do want to stay with him. I want a loving relationship. He's a very selfish man