could "I've got her a ring " mean anything else

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group of us at a friends house last night having drinks before we head out to pub

I was upstairs waiting for the loo to become free and overhead dp saying to his mate "I've got her a ring "

they seemed to be discussing my birthday which is in two weeks as they were talking about where we would go and what we would do

could I have misheard? is he going to propose? it could just be that he has got me a ring couldn't it?

now I cannot get the comment out my head and am surpisingly excited about the prospect of a proposal

however there is a definite part of me that thinks this must be something else...

I know what it is. he has hired me a boxing ring and we are going to be sparring partners

ties in with my bucket list of things to do.

I never said I wanted to be engaged. never even gave it a thought until I overheard.

possibilities are:

boxing ring
engagement ring
just a ring
cock ring

God there are some miseries on this thread.

OP, what was the mate's reaction? Surely if your dp had been telling his mate he was about to propose to you, the mate would have said something like 'good luck' or even jumped the gun and said 'congratulations'?

I'd be happy with any of those rings OP

Agree with others who have said not to get your hopes up in case you are met with disappointment. Really got my fingers crossed for you though.

And chase you are such a misery guts!

My DP at the time got me a ring for my 21st, it was a birthstone ring and not intended to be an engagement one but a lovely keepsake. In fact this thread has reminded me I must dig it out and get it repaired after it had to be cut off a couple of years ago (bad skin infection caused that whole hand to swell and it was digging in).

What questions do we ask if OP comes back to announce the 'Cock Ring'?
Oooh is it variable speed, single use.

Hope its all you wish for OP.

A ring does not necessarily mean an engagement ring. Don't get too over excited or you will ruin your birthday if he doesn't propose especially if you have built it up in your head.

This is an absolutely genuine question. Does the proposal thing still happen? Don't people just discuss getting married and then do it when time and funds permit.?

Being an old fashioned thing and married for 25 years, I think it's lovely, just as I think it's nice if a man helps me with my coat, stands when I walk in a room or pays for dinner. But I didn't think we were allowed to like/want these things anymore.

I dont recall his mates response. he more or less staryed suggesting where to go etc...then I went to the loo.

Maybe it is The Ring, as in the Japanese based horror movie?

I'm with PrivateJourney though, I thought most people these days had a mutual discussion about whether they would get married, and then go and choose a ring together. I would be really pissed off at a) a surprise proposal, and b) having no input into choosing my engagement ring.

Just keep thinking that he said, 'got her a thing' so you don't wind yourself up.

Maybe he said 'wing' and you will have an RAF flyover after dessert! The Queen has such on her birthday pretty regular, why not you?!

PrivateJourney, I spoke to OH about marriage and at the start of our relationship and he said that was something that he had never wanted. After a few months a wedding was mentioned in passing and I said that while I would like to get married I didn't mind that he never wanted to and it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me if he never did. It wasn't spoken about again but since then, more recently, he has done a complete U-turn and now out of the blue says he is excited by the idea of marrying me one day , no idea what changed his mind. A few times he has said "When I propose I'm going to..." and things to that effect, I've decided to completely let him take the lead with it as he was the one with reservations to start with. Also for me sitting down and planning it all out beforehand and knowing what and when to expect it would ruin it a little, but that's just me.

For some of us, choosing to spend the rest of our life with someone is one of the most important decisions we make. For me, it was a decision that affected my future in so many ways. I know I wouldn't be where I am in life today without the support and partnership of my DH. We built our life together and created a family together. We are in the same field of work and have a business together so yes, we very define each other and have contributed hugely to the way each others lives have turned out. Sorry if that is a little unfeminist for you LovesPeace. I know my DH feels the same way about me.

OP, are we going to have to wait 2 weeks before we know what the ring or thing was for? Oh dear. And yes, maybe its a nudge to start thinking about what you want in the future. If you do see him as The One, have you discussed marrying with him at all?

could he have said "I'll give her a ring".... Like on a phone?

Beryl, even 25 year ago, DH (who did propose) wasn't daft enough as to try and choose a ring for me

When we discussed and agreed that we wanted to marry, dH pulled a cheap silver ring off his hand as a placeholder. It didnt fit the correct finger, but I accepted it and wore it on the middle finger . We then discovered we didnt want any rings we could afford, and told ourselves on our 10 anniversary, we would buy nice rings. But we bought a house that year instead. On our 20th, we were planning our overseas move instead. Maybe 25th. I haven't even had this resized, as it IS only a temporary ring.

I should probably add to mine that he knows I wouldn't wear an engagement ring and have no interest in having one. I have lost so many rings, broken a finger on a window latch with a ring catching and almost degloved my finger in a ring and horses tack related encounter . I won't wear one any more.

A wedding ring I would wear, but I'd go for the thinnest plain gold band possible so that if I managed to almost maim myself, in theory, the ring snaps. I also don't really do showy as it somehow always looks a bit cheap on me.

I will update in two weeks to let you all know what it actually is.

I remember dp once saying to me that he could see himself married to me. we have discussed how we would do it. ..ie quick service, strangers off the street as witnesses haha. but I just assumed it was always in jest.
we will see.
not even sure id say yes

TheDiet - I'm genuinely happy that your marriage is working out - but we all need to be an independent being. I don't think you should let your husband 'define' you.

And no one really knows the secret inner self of another - so you THINK he feels the same way about you...but as Mumsnet proves, so did a lot of other women/wives who thought 'my hubby is one of the good ones'.

My parents were happily married for almost 50 years, my Mum assumed she knew everything about my dad - she didn't know he'd had lengthy discussions with me about killing himself until I told her after he died.

Secret inner selves - we all have them.

And to the OP - I hope it works out as you wish it to.

ETA - my dad died of natural causes in the end...not suicide.

I'm friends with a couple who have been together for three years now. Recently he secretly asked my opinion on diamonds and the amount of carats that would or would not be acceptable to a woman . I believe Amal got 7!

He also showed me a very tasty Tiffany solitaire on his phone. Now I'm on total tenterhooks waiting for the proposal....Hurry up D, I can't keep my big mouth shut much longer!!

Diet didn't say her husband defined her life, she said the decision to marry him did.

I understand that diet. If I hadn't have married DH, I wouldn't be living where I live now ( he rebuilt this house), so I would have a different circle of friends to the fantastic ones I've met here. I wouldn't have become a foster carer when I did- so I wouldn't have met and fallen in love with the two children we adopted.

I'm my own person, but together we've made a different life to the one I might have had alone, or with somebody else.

It's good to be happy in a marriage, or relationship - but you should always make your own identities/definitions and have a back-up plan for a future alone, in case anything happens.