I've Said Sorry so Why Do I Still Feel Crap?

[BaconAndAvocado]

To cut a long story short, last weekend I had a fall out with DH's best friend about issues relating to his girlfriend (whom he left his wife! my best friend, for).

I overreacted and when I received an angry text from said girlfriend telling me to,stop interfering I replied with an apology and promise that in future I would not get involved.

This all relates to negative stuff that DH's best friend has relayed to,us about the girlfriend and her attitude towards his children, which he is now choosing to alter/back track on.

Maybe I'm still feeling shit because the girlfriend didn't text to,say she accepted my apology.

Tia

Let it go.. its really one of those messy things in life that aren't worth it.

Just support your friend.

If the girlfriend gets in your face...don't apologise (I wouldn't have anyway) and tell her to get fucked.

Drop it. Who cares if she acknowledged your apology. Make it known to your dh and his best mate that you have apologised and will not comment further.

Then take one big step back from the situation.

Thanks all.

Yes I must let it go.

Just been talking to DH about it and he said I've nothing to feel bad about.

Wish I could toughen up a bit!

Am I right that you're saying this woman shagged a married man? Probably not the kind of woman who will accept an apology or even be someone you'd trust in a friendship. I would leave it.

If DH's friend told you these things and they were meant to be kept between the three of you then I agree that you should stop interfering. If he seemed open about telling you this stuff then see it as a lesson learnt and disregard what your DH's friend says in future.

Motherofdragons if op should have a problem with anyone over the conduct of an affair (which we dont know took place) then shouldnt it be DH's best friend?

Op sorry if I sound critical Im sure youre blowing it all out of proportion and if you imagine someone else in your shoes i bet you would be telling them not to worry about it have you seen dh bf since? You might feel better once youve got that over with and realise no one's bothered

Wise words from you all

beavington totally agree with you about someone else in my shoes, but it's always easier when you're on the outside of some thing, isn't it?! I will definitely try and do this though!

I know things will blow over, it's just been eating me up, emotionally and physically and wish I didn't let it affect me so much.

bacon im the same tbh i lose all rationale in these type of situations!

Ive just re-read you OP and your DH's bf sounds like a huge shit stirrer and you have no reason to feel like youve done wrong. Your friend said his new gf is not nice because of xxx, you mentioned this in an argument with him, and then he goes back and tells his gf what youve said while denying he was ever the one to put those thoughts in your head. Sounds like you should be mad at him tbh!

beavington has summed it up perfectly.

Let it go, you apologised.

Your husbands best friend has made his choice, that's none of your business.
You can however continue to be a brilliant friend to his ex your BF.

beavington sounds spot on.

Not only was your DH's best friend the kind to cheat he is also the kind to tell you shitty stuff about how someone treats his kids and then back track massively on it leaving you in the shit.

I would back off from him. Leave DH and him to their friendship and be superficially polite whilst not engaging with his crap at all.

Again, brilliant advice from you all.

Let it go, definitely trying to!

Back off from situation, have already done that!

My opinion of DH's best friend wasn't great to say the least, now, I think he's a complete arse.
hoorah! Closure

Great